I got punched in the head the other day because of someone else's accusation. There was no way to talk it over. He got me in a choke hold and i couldn't breath. I couldn't find that anger i had once before and i couldn't get that adrenaline to get myself out of it. I barely got angry i wanted to but i just couldn't. I know that if i did fight it could have damaged the house and us ppl that lease the house could have gotten kicked out but still i'm a little dissapointed in myself. Anybody got any advice or something that can help?

I am glad you did not get angry and go after the person because it could have lead to you losing your home or jail time.
But I do belive you should defend yourself when necessary

Why do you think you didn't fight back? Also, why didn't you call the police?

You've changed. Why would you need the anger and the accompanying adrenaline rush? It seems things worked out well without the "old ways." Rejoice and be glad! I read something in a magazine dedicated to Yoga about Patience. Patience to "wait out" the anger and its response. Feel the anger, but do nothing. That takes discipline as well. But feeling it and mulling it over to come up with a different response (if any--if it's worth it!) is a sign of growth.

What's wrong with getting angry?

There's nothing wrong with anger if you know how to handle it. I completely lost control of my anger this past weekend. I blew up at my ex-husband because he had said something to hurt my son. Afterwards I felt horrible. I just hated the feeling of being out of control. My son needed my intervention and I reacted.. I look forward to learning a more productive way of handling those feelings of rage for myself and so that i can teach my children a better way as well.

thanx everybody. In the past it was the adrenaline i was counting on to defend myself and so i wouldn't feel the pain while i was doin it, but then again they teach you in martial arts to stay as calm as possible so you don't lose control. I didn't call the cops because it was one of my housemates brothers. I guess i'm just a little upset with myself because i let him do that to me. He definately was alot stronger then me. Maybe its time to take up one of the martial arts.