I need to tell someone about this, but not a family member. Today my brother told me that his friends father died. It wasn't unexpected, but of course still hard on his friend. He said that he is going to the wake.

I am a bit embarassed to say that I'm angry at him. See about 2 years ago my uncle died. Do you know how I found out?

My brother left me a note that said that he had passed away. He left and went to his friends house to work on his car and drink beer.

I was really upset that my uncle had died, and was shocked that I had to learn it from a note. But I never said anything to him. I guess it was the least of my worries at the time.

I just think he's a really insensitive 'jerk'. I really want to use a stronger word right now but will refrain.

Normally I share my gripes with my sister, but I think if I share this story it may cause some anger between other family members and my brother.

I don't really want to talk to him about this, because I still live here with him (I am moving SOON) I just think we're wearing on each other every day and holding each other back. We tolerate each other but don't really accept each other. I really feel like I come home to someone who could care less about what I do and what I think and feel. And what should I expect? He's my brother not a husband. It just kind of sucks. I'm looking forward to moving.

Thanks,

Deb

I suggest that you open up to your brother and tell him how hurt you are. While you're anger is understandable, I think you're more hurt than angry--and I believe if you share this with your brother you will feel much better.