dang. i get sooo frustrated w/people, esp my husband. and his family.

i don't want to be angry. i just feel sooo pissed/frustrated/irritated/betrayed all the time. it seems like my husband just can't figure it all out. i don't ask for a lot, and what i do ask for, i spell out for him. but he still gets it all wrong. honestly. every DAY there is something major going on.

and his family. they are crazy. and they are always meddling and interfering and basically verbally and emotionally abusing us. so i cut them off. husband and i both agreed it was a good idea to do that for 6 mos to see how it goes. but he still keeps in contact w/them and just doesn't tell me about it. it makes me upset that he didn't take our plan seriously. if he wants a relationship w/them, it's going to be very hard for me because of how terrible they are to him. yelling, swearing, bossing him around, giving him the silent treatment, spreading lies about us to everyone they know, on and on and on.

i don't want to be angry. honestly, i don't want to deal w/the lot of them anymore. i just want to be FREEEE of all this madness. i try to let it roll off but i'm tired of getting reeled into all the lies, the drama, the dysfunction. the more i deal w/them, the more i find myself listening to the relaxation CD, having panic attacks, and dreaming of running away. i just can't seem to help how i feel because i'm always involved in this whether i want to be or not.

AGH.

Oh Scaredgrl,

My husband did the same thing with our neighbors. After they stole money and our wood, my husband wanted to "keep the peace".

Ok I was PO'd at the people, but I did not go out of my way to be mean to them, hurt them, bother them...nothing. I just chose NOT to have a friendship anymore because they way I see it, freinds do NOT treat friends they way they did, then act like nothing ever happened. Not in my book. I make a mistake, I fess up and apologize. Not that everyone will be like me, I do not expect anyone to be...but stealing is not an attribute I want in a neighbor, let alona any friend.

SO he behind my back did something. Well, I guess he did not plan on his daughter telling me that she received a graduation card. I was thinking, we returned it to sender, put it in the mailbox and that was that. I did not want anything from them I did not want to feel obligated for anything because they sent a check. A check is not going to correct what theivery has done. I did not want anything to do with them, hubby was well aware and seemed to go along with the program.

Apparently, they called my hubby's cell phone while he was at work, got my step daughter's address at her mom's and off the card (and check) went. I told my step daughter (she knew what happened about the stealing) that I sent her grad card back, I did not want any one of us to feel obligated to talk to them. Take your check back and stay out of our lifes. SHe said well that is interesting cause I got a card from THEM!

I looked at hubby and he got that "OH SH*T, I AM IN BIG DOODIE" look.

OH HE WAS!

He said he wanted to keep the peace their household. I was like...AH duh? Which house SHOULD you be concern with here? Are they your partner? Do they take care of you, clean, cook, tun errands? What they did amounted to going into our wallet and yard and helping themselves, then, THEN drunk off their butts swearing and insulting ME the morning I found out my grandmother died! Then were SO low to go behind my back to you. WHat kinda people do that? . You wanna be friends with these kinda people? Recheck your priorities and get back to me.

He did....and it has been peaceful ever since. I know it is hard. Be strong, he is your husband and you his wife.

Hey Girl,
Unfortunatly you will have to deal with them. I know what your going through. My husbands mom is a major pain, but I just smile and let her talk to me like IM stupid. I really don't let her bother me anymore. You have it worse than me with a whole family of nuts, lol... Hang in there, don't let them split you up, but keep in mind he is addicted to their drama.
Cathy