WOW!!! I am an explosive person. Even after going through this lesson [6], it is hard for me to implement these behaviors. For example, last night I exploded at my boyfriend and afterwards I felt like that woman Lucinda said felt like an abuser must have felt after abusing someone. It definitely is an environmental behavior. My family has always (a still do to this day-- I still live at home) use anger to get their feelings across but what I now realize is that they never get the results they want--an understanding of what they are feelings. Last night, I didn't get any sleep b/c I realized how bad I am at expressing anger and how I made my boyfriend feel bad (AND my anger wasn't even about him --it was about me feeling sad that he would not be here with me for Thanksgiving). Today, I listened to Lesson 7 for the first time and I felt a little better b/c I realize that I don't know how to assert myself but I won't get too much into that b/c this is about anger. Thank God for this program. It is making me EXTREMELY aware of what brings about my anxiety and sometimes depression.

wow i can totally relate to you. im always yelling at my bf because hes busy a lot now and we dont get to see each other enough so just the littleest things set me off and i get pretty upset. i feel terrible because im only bringing him down wen hes trying to help me all the time with my anxiety. but we shood be thankful that we have ppl that care for us.

-penny

I have been doing the exact same thing! Wow, I am really glad that I joined this forum, because now I really do know that I am not alone. I mean I knew there were other people out there dealing with stress, anxiety, and depression. But I didn't know there were people dealing with the same situations as me.

Do you guys know what you are going to do about this? I have been blowing up on my boyfriend A LOT lately for the littlest things. It is just because I have been so emotional...so when things don't go the way I think they should I get very upset.

I really want to stop doing this to him. Last night I just broke down and cryed for a couple of hours. He has been very supportive, but I don't want to get on his nerves. And I DON'T want to keep doing this.