I suppose this is a anger issue as I am VERY angry right now. I am trying desparetly to quit smoking. I guess I just need to vent. I visited Yahoo's quit smoking site. I posted that I was down to two smokes and needed encouragement. People posted back to look up what a black lung looked like, told me that two a day was as bad as a pack and that the "wanna be a non-smoker group was down the hall". They also said that smoking with a patch (which I haven't) would kill me. I posted back that I was looking for positive feedback and the responses were even worse. Someone told me to stop looking for pity, another said this group is for people who are acually serious about not smoking and who have REALLY quit. They told me two a day (am actually at one since sunday) is no better then a pk a day smoker. I felt so bad after reading all of these responses. SO, true to character, I dropped a bomb there and told them where to shove it!! I will not go back. I went out and smoked a cig about an hr ago. I have not had a smoke during the day for 7 days now. Why am I letting this get to me I keep asking myself? I have conquered bigger mountains then this with panic and anxiety...and yet their words were so powerful. Made me think that THEY knew something I didn't. As if smoking two a day was equal to NOTHING. I guess I am angry that I ALLOWED a situation such as this to get to me. I'm gonna get back on track and try to focus on something positive again. Hope that I don't find myself in the OCD section later today...I am obsessing about this. lol Thanks for listenting.
Hang in there Christine. I am a smoker who quit for 10 years then stupidly started back again ( of course a man who smoked was involved ) I have heard that quitting smoking is more difficult than quitting heroin. I have never been on heroin but I know when I quit smoking it was extremely rough. Your body is going through addiction withdrawl and that is what is causing the anger. It will get better once your body is able to clean itself of the toxins. Drink plenty of water or green tea, brush your teeth every time you eat or eat a mint so your mouth does not taste like food (really does work), go for a walk or try to get your mind on something else when you have a craving. You will make it - you are a strong woman!
You will quit when you are ready Christine. Dont get discouraged. I was a smoker for years, about a pack & a half a day. I quit for three years, smoked again for a year then quit again almost a year ago. I no longer even crave a smoke. It will happen for you. And dont let other peoples negative comments drive you to smoke. What they say doesnt matter. Keep your head up. Ill be praying for you. Jodi
Posts: 107 | Location: Oklahoma | Registered: April 13, 2007
hey there lug, my goodness girl you are doing so well. you don't need to know what a black lung looks like. you want to quit. and you will. they probably got a pic of a black lung from a dead coal miner. black lung is a disease. from working around coal.they were mean to you. you have every right to be angry.that would discourage smokers to hear that bunch of nasty mean stuff. they lacked respect for you. we are here for you. so vent and we will listen. keep doing what you are doing. you are doing great!!!!!!!!! luvya, kp
What's the name of that website? I'll go over and create some havoc. Should take Anita w/me too. You wanna know what I think? I think they feared you because you still smoked. Would it not be a great fear of an ex-smoker to suddenly get sucked back in? Maybe they were afraid you'd talk about the butts you did have. It's too tempting for them. Fighting fear with anger ... hmmm ... doesn't sound like it works for long. So you didn't stumble on an actual support site, so what. There are tons of them out there, you'll find one. There are toll-free support lines you can call too ya know. You can also write to any of the misfits and spill your guts.
You're doing good. Very good! You're WAY ahead of me. You knew this was gonna be hard and secretly I think you knew it wasn't gonna be entirely cold turkey all at once. You know yourself better than anyone else. You're on the road and you're doing fine. Have patience with yourself as you work thru this. No need to be angry at yourself and no need to think you'll ever go back to where you were before you got those patches. Where is that positive self talk and determination you had just days ago? Gonna let a bunch of ****in' snobs rob you of that??? Luv ya Lug. You can do this. One day at a time.
Posts: 2012 | Location: Rhode Island | Registered: October 16, 2001
Don't beat yourself up honey, you are doing great. I know how hard it is to quit, I quit 14 years ago, and I smoked over 2 packs a day, It took me a few times before I quit, It is one of the hardest things I ever did. Just take it one hour at a time. you will do it!! ((((HUGS))))). The heck with those people over there.
Debbie
Posts: 374 | Location: Rhode Island | Registered: January 07, 2007
LUVG, What the hell!!!! That was supposed to be a support group for quitting smoking???? They need some lessons in SUPPORT!!!! Now get this, my uncle smoked 60yrs and he finally made it down to TWO A DAY!!, The doc said, that wasnt going to hurt HIM!!! Thank God he made it down to two a day, he was 80yrs old when he did, and it wasnt smoking that killed him!!! That really ticks me off Luvg,, that people would that CRAP!!! But, remember X Smokers give you the WORST headaches!!!! I know cause my husband is an X smoker,, he cant smell his own farts, but rubs his nose and looks intent if he smells cigerette smoke!!! lol You hang in there girl!!! You will make it!!! Love ya Nelly
Can't smell his own farts!!!?!?!?!?!!! THAT CAUGHT ME OFF GUARD! LMAO. Too funny. I'm sure he does, he just doesn't mind his own aroma. Funny how we can stand our own, but gross out on someone elses, huh? Gosh, maybe I'm speaking for myself! (If nobody else wants to FESS UP -- lol). I didn't even see what the start of the thread was about since I got a notification of what this was about, but I've got to tell ya something personal. When I was pregnant with my son, they put me on some prenatal vitamins and I HAD TO LEAVE THE ROOM IT MADE MY FARTS SMELL SO BAD! Needless to say, I quit taking them and asked for different ones.
We should start a fart joke thread. They really are hilarious! Especially in person -- I've got some stories about my dad that my kids BEG me to tell over and over because of facial expressions and the whole situation.....
I don't know why I felt the need to post this, but HERE IT IS! And I'll start the one in the humor section. Hope you don't mind, Nelly, I'm putting yours FIRST..................
OMG! Coming back to check in on this has been wonderful. I wanna cry (out of frustration) and LMAO at the same time. Nelly..OMG! Too funny! hahahaha I love humor!
Thank you guys so much. I should have just stuck with this site to begin with. Was thinking others going through the same thing over there, would of had compassion as people here do. Maybe they don't suffer with anxiety or obsessiveness and there for lack the support I was looking for. In reading your guys posts, I felt/feel a sense of empowerment again. We all know that it starts in the mind. I have to focus my mind on the now and let that experience go. I did smoke yet ANOTHER ciggie after posting here. I realized how ashamed and gulity I felt. That is what is keeping me down. Trying to sneak one and yet "I" know. Ha! Who am I hidding from? Cetainly not myself. I'm gonna try and view these slip ups as NO BIG DEAL. I didn't conquer anxiety or panic overnight, so this may be similar. My obsessive mind keeps hearing the thought "who are you kinding, your just looking for excuses". They said that, along with me not being ready and that underminded my thoughts process. I AM READY and I will succeed!!
lololol lmao lolol nelly that was funny lolol. angie,oprah is about = how is your poop shaped lug, keep up the good work. and that was not true about the 2 cigs. of coures it is not the same as a pack. luvya,kp
I'm a lifetime smoker. Started at 15 and I'm 38 right now. I managed to quit for about a year when I was 26 or so but started back up for some dumb reason. Quitting smoking is hard. It requires constant encouragement and support. You may falter, you may not quit the first time.. . . don't quit quitting. You'll do it all in your appropriate time. Best of luck to you.
I was hopiong to wish you a happy 8th day, but you smoked and THAT'S O.K.!
Get back on that wagon and quit again. Imagine? you had 7 days w/o one! Oh, and a doctor told me that the first 72 hours are the hardest, so keep that in mind on your fourth day -- It's all down hill from there.
I smoke and want to quit, have quit before for three years, then again for a few days short of a year. I know how hard it is. I admire you for your perseverence.
I'm sorry that group was so mean to you, but knowing your "bombs" so well, I think I'm more sorry for the group for starting you up
I'm so proud of your progress, it is HUGE. Even now I crave one now and again, and may even have one every few months. It is very hard to quit, and I am sure that 2 cigs per day is a lot better than 2 packs, what a stupid thing to say to you. You keep at it, you are doing so great!
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You wanna know what I think? I think they feared you because you still smoked. Would it not be a great fear of an ex-smoker to suddenly get sucked back in? Maybe they were afraid you'd talk about the butts you did have. It's too tempting for them. Fighting fear with anger ... hmmm ... doesn't sound like it works for long. So you didn't stumble on an actual support site, so what. There are tons of them out there, you'll find one. There are toll-free support lines you can call too ya know. You can also write to any of the misfits and spill your guts. 
hahahaha I love humor!
Was thinking others going through the same thing over there, would of had compassion as people here do. Maybe they don't suffer with anxiety or obsessiveness and there for lack the support I was looking for. In reading your guys posts, I felt/feel a sense of empowerment again. 
I'm gonna try and view these slip ups as NO BIG DEAL. I didn't conquer anxiety or panic overnight, so this may be similar. My obsessive mind keeps hearing the thought "who are you kinding, your just looking for excuses". They said that, along with me not being ready and that underminded my thoughts process. I AM READY and I will succeed!!
...I am gonna post that somewhere to see daily. Thanks!! 
Those things confuse me. It's not like posting on here. 
They also said that smoking with a patch (which I haven't) would kill me. 
SO, true to character, I dropped a bomb there and told them where to shove it!! 