My husband is my "safe" person and it's been 4 yrs since I became agoraphobic with social anxiety within the last 2 - 3 yrs. I have begun to really resent my husband in the last year or so but we also just moved to a new area where I know NO ONE and I feel absolutely abandoned and isolated. My husband is the only person I can rely on but he's been such a jerk lately that I cancelled my therapy appts b/c I didn't want him near me - let alone driving me to my therapy appt. I am assuming that resenting your safe person is normal but how do I handle this? Anyone have any ideas b/c my situation is really really bad right now and has been for quite some time. I'm really desperate. Please help.

Do you have anyone you can call on the phone and talk to so you don't feel so isolated? Seems like you really need to start going back to therapy - is there any other way to get there besides your husband? And even is he is being a jerk - how much difference is there between being in the car with him, and being home alone with him? Can you somehow handle it for just long enough for him to take you to your therapy appt? Or can your therapist do a few sessions over the phone?

I have been dealing with the same exact problem. My boyfriend has been very supportive of me lately. Everytime I break down and cry he is there for me and wants to help. I usually end up pushing him away though.

He hasn't been a "jerk", but because of my mood swings and being so emotional...to me it seems like he has. So I confront him or make a big deal about it...and then half way through talking about it to him I realize that I am making something out of nothing.

So don't feel alone. That is one of the biggest reasons I am wanting to order these tapes and that I have joined this website.

How has your husband been a jerk lately? Because maybe you are doing the same thing I am doing. Maybe he is not a jerk, but because things get to you more easily latley it seems that he is a jerk.

It wasn't until I started feeling better last year that I realized how much stress my husband was under dealing with work, myself and daughter. He didn't have time to worry about his problems because he was dealing with mine first, (I demanded it). He was cooking, cleaning and taking care of our daughter all the while trying to deal with his own stuff. I thought he was being a jerk because of his attitude while doing these things. Remember, we aren't the only ones who deal with anxiety and stress, we are just totally focused on ourselves that we forget. I thanked my husband afterward and he felt better that I understood.

I am a wife of a military officer so I know about moving! In fact, we are moving to Ohio in a few months. My phone has been a great friend, calling old friends I have stayed in contact with. I just found a childhood friend on the classmates.com website and it has been great. Right now, we live in Las Vegas, so people are very to themselves. We have been here 2 1/2 years and I still don't have a good friend! I am hoping to change that when we move to a smaller town. I also am planning to get a part time job at my daughter's school to keep me busy.

Mary

I have been in quite the same spot as you in 95 we moved and I just started to shut down I worked in the house did everything for everyone but myself...97 Mom had a massive stroke out of state .. things took about 3 months 2 hospitals and 3 living arrangements to get them back in state....to make a very long story short after doing all I could for everyone I decided it was time to....do something really STUPID!!!!
Don't let yourself get to this point!!! Call a friend - call all the people you know - call a hot line - get out...you are your safe person hug youself - love yourself and start at the foundation..build yourself up!!! You can do it you, not when you get around to it NOW!!!YOU ARE #1

I defienty agree with KRO you need to reach out, do you have any family member that might understand where you are at this time in your life?
Jesus is my safe person and myself. I really believe that we need to become our SAFE PERSON, then go and make a safe place for yourself as well.
When all else fails call upon Jesus to give you a light at the end of that dark tunnel.

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