I am the mother of a 8 year old and it seems like she is always by my side and lately it has been getting on my nerves and it take it out on her. She feels bad and says she does not want to bother me. What do we do about these feelings they have been getting worse over the last week or so. Any suggestions?

Hi,

I can relate! I have a 4 year old that sticks to me like glue as well. I think she knows when I'm feeling really anxious and that's when she picks to stay by my side. I try not to show how I feel, but sometimes it's hard to hide.

I do know the feeling of frustration, certainly when you feel anxious and want to be alone.

I try to give my daughter a project that will entertain herself for awhile, just to give me time to take a breath. She also has her own tv in her room, and that helps alot!

Don't be so hard on yourself, remember that even though we are mothers we are also human.

Feel free to email me whenever you want, I will always listen.

Good luck!

Raven

You can try to explain to your daughter that you have a lot on your mind and need some time to be alone to think. Let her know that once you've had the time you need to sort things out in your head, you'll be there for her again for a good amount of time.

Hi Adfad,
I don't quit no how to answer your question but I will try. I find that when Im anxious the worst thing that I can do is just sit and spend time alone. I would rather concentrate on something other than myself. I have three children and their distraction is a blessing. It takes the focus of myself and my obsessing with how I feel, and why I feel this way, and so on... My daughter is 21 and in her third year university, let me tell you I would love to have her 8 years old again and wanting my affection. As is I have two boys at home 15 and 10 but they are not as affectionate as my daughter was. Im not saying to never take time for yourself because we really need to do that. But sometimes we can get so wrapped up in ourselves that we cant see whats right in front of us.
blessings to you and your daughter
Kimberlee