I'm feeling bad about writing an angery letter. The receiver deserved it; and I needed to let him know how hurt I was, but I had my goals for the letter mixed up. It was in anger that I called names. I never thought I would resort to this type of anger again. In the end though, it's best that he's not in my life, but what I'm remorseful about is that I feel bad that I have it in me to be so angery, to bite back. I thought all of this anger was gone. I thought I was getting good at excepting people for who they are, expecting less, moving on. I'm afraid I'm a hurtful person, when someone is hurtful to me. I feel it is so wrong to return hurt with hurt. It's made me feel bad, most likely worse than he is feeling. I'm not sure how to feel better and stop obsessing. I feel like if I had his acceptance, I'd stop feeling anxious about this, but that I'm not sure I'm going to get. I guess if we don't feel remorse, we repeat the same behavior, but I'm not sure how to let this go. I feel like it is so easy for some people to let go, but I hang on too much. Has anyone experienced regret that is similar? How did you let go?
Kris

Hi,
I know we all have lost it at some point. Remind yourself that you are not a perfect person and will do things sometimes that you are not proud of. Everyone does and you are human too. Part of this learning is to give yourself a break. Also, anger will always be there, its learning how to handle it in healthy ways. You vented to the right person but maybe you said more than you should have. Its ok. He'll get over it. Getting hurt stirs up lots of emotions. You could've done worse. Tell yourself no big deal each time it pops in your mind.
Sincerely, Reena

Hi Reena,

Your words meant a lot to me. Thank you.
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Kris