I'm sure some of you are getting tired of reading my posts re trouble w/gf. I need to know what to do. She is very frustrated that she isn't getting much of my attention right now. I'm kind of focused on this problem . when and got evaluated 2-day by mental health dept and she thinks i'm GAD and leaning towardss social,anxiety disorder as well. Anyway I pretty much had diagnosed myself b4 and I'm trying to get GF to understand this . She won't investigate at all. Won't read web info,,topics re: anxiety/depression and tonight after telling me she couldn't live like this any longer I told her to read up and understand. "You're cramminf this dowen my throat" . Iguess after 10 years she finally doesn't care but tomoorow sh'll tell me she loves me.??????????> Now she's saying once again that she's moving out for the umteeth time. Always on the edge. No wonder I am anxious and depressed???????????HELP!!!KJK

better4it,
if you know that tommorrow she will tell you that she loves you then why are you worring and beating yourself up.. if you and her have been together 10 years..i think she will be there a long time. this is just what i read into it. i know what anxiety is like. i had had it all my life. until i went through the program while going through a divorce and skin cancer.then last year i woke up one day and it was gone and i could do things i had not done in years and felt comfortable.. so if i can deal with anxiety and do it i think that you can as well. just be easy on here..she will be there for you and you need to be there for her...i wish you well if you are going through the program...take baby steps and listen to what the dr tells you what meds you need to help you through it as well..take care and good luck..
don

hello im sorry that the one support u need is not there right now maybe try explaining to her how important it is that she supports u and that with her support u could get better cause honestly we are suppose to be there for better or for worse right? for long term relationships. So maybe try to put it to her nicely and explaining how much it would mean to u for her to become educated on what u are going through and help support u. i do agree with the reply ahead of me that u shouldnt worry about her running if this happens all the time. i dont know the whole situation at home but i do know that people have a hard time helping if the person they are gonna help is fighty and anxious so try relaxing when u explain this to her if u need anymore chit chat please email or im me i would love to be there for ya samj

better4it,

I'm all for being committed to someone and exhausting every possible avenue before ending a relationship because we live in a society where people, relationships and marriages have become disposable.

However, there comes a time when the only right and healthy thing you can do is to move on because you're holding on to this "thing" (love, hope, fear of being alone) that isn't doing you any good, and you can't move to a higher level if you're holding on to a lower ground.

Living with anxiety disorder and depression is difficult enough in the best of circumstances. The person you're with should make it easier for you to deal with, not add to the problem.

Not only do you deserve better but, in my opinion, if you don't distance yourself from her negativity and abuse (because that's what it is) no amount of deep breathing, positive thoughts, CBT or medication are going to do you any good no matter what you're diagnosed with.

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Chessie I agree with you on this one. I stayed in a marriage for 38 years and finally got out. I don't know how I ever dids it. Looking back I can only believe it is in God's plan for me.
I moved by my son. He is 40 years old and married. I thought he would care about me and his disabled brother. All his life I was there for him . He was very difficult to raise. He could care less about us. It hurts to have someone you love not care enough to find out about your condition. I too printed him out information on my condition hoping he would understand what I am going through. I have Major depression, GAD, and Post traumatic stress disorder. I was sure the information would change things. It didn't. I haven't heard from him and he lives 2 blocks away. I tell you my story so you can have information to make a good decision for yourself. I will not beg for what I shoul get . If the shoe were on the other foot I would be there 100% as I always was. Take Care of yoursel and don't let any one pull you down.

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Originally posted by natalie41:
I was sure the information would change things. It didn't. I haven't heard from him and he lives 2 blocks away.

And even so, you survived.

If you had spent your time and energy begging as you say, trying to convince him that he should love you and take care of you in the way you want and deserve, it would have most likely made your condition worse instead of better because how stressful is that??

We're better off alone than being surrounded by people who suck the life out of us.