I am currently finishing up Session 5 and will start Session 6 next week but as I was browsing through the forums and noticing so many people that are angry and don't know why. I wanted to bring something to light that maybe you haven't realized or even ever thought about. It came to me a few months ago when I was really angry about something insignificant and couldn't figure out why. Well here is the thing when our anxiety is bad we feel out of control and we like to have control who doesn't? However us not being able to do those things we used to do and not being able to control how we feel causes us to be angry we are not angry at anyone in particular but angry at ourselves and our anxiety because we can't control it. I'll repeat that again we are angry at our anxiety for doing this to us and for us not being able to control it. Since many of us don't realize this we take our anger out on others and things and sometimes on ourselves. So lets start directing that anger where it should be directed. Emotions are here for a reason not to be bottled up or hidden it is ok to feel angry yet controlled direct your anger towards your anxiety and let that encourage you to work even harder. I suggest anyone dealing with uncontrollable emotions to pick up this book I am currently reading by Joyce Meyers called "Managing your Emotions" it is very good. Pm if you need to talk. God Bless.

victorious,
i agree with you! Been there, done that many years, till i started recovering from anxiety. Ive read that book to , awesome, the one she had out last year is good to."Approval Addiction". Take care Nelly

Hi Victorious, I agree with you, we MUST learn how to control our feeling because if we dont the only thing we are doing is hurting others around us and when we realized this it hurts ourselfs and thats when we start thinking how bad we are, that why nobody loves us and so on...
If we dont change our way of thinking, and thinking before we talk, we will continue hurting other and ourselves and will not be able to get over this anxiety or depression. I think that when we make others feel good, we feel good or better. So lets try to be nicer and lets start today, we can do it

I can't speak for anyone else buy my counselor helped me to realize I was using anger to cover up sadness. I don't like being sad (who does?) so any time I would start feeling sad I would get MAD and lash out.

The past three weeks I've done a lot of crying and letting that sadness and pain out. It's really helping me not be so angry.

And yes sometimes I get mad at the anxiety too but sometimes we also use anger to cover other emotions like sadness or fear.

I've read some of Joyce Meyer's stuff too. We have "Battlefield of the Mind" that my DH's sister loaned us but it sort of scared me so I haven't finished it yet.

Hey Mello I will definitely check that book out as soon as I finish reading this one. And Faith I also have the Battlefield of the Mind and I have read it and I will be honest with you when I picked it up I was having severe panic attacks daily throughout the day and while I read that book it completely made me feel calm when I started seeing the other side of things. It can be a little scary but you will feel better in the end. You can do it I strongly recommend that you finish it. And Andrea you are right we do have to start being nicer. Anxiety can sometimes make us nasty little things huh?

The book "Search for Significance" has a chapter on Approval Addiction too that is very good!

You are so right VictoriousD. It is anxiety that I am angry about and unfortunately, I do take my anger out on other people/things. I haven't ever looked at it that way. Thanks for the enlightenment. I'm sure now I can learn to direct my anger in the appropriate way. Thanks again and God Bless!

You are welcome Mlewrkmn, It's not going to be easy but it's not impossible to do. Just don't let your emotions run you. Something I've been having to come to terms with recently is that I am OVERLY sensitive when it comes to dealing with my husband and I am very easily offended. Everything has a different meaning and something behind it. I know it is not so but it's so frustrating when I get mad it's funny because years ago I would NEVER cry for anything and now when I get real upset with my husband or we get into a heavy argument I can't help but crying I hate it!!! I don't like crying it's never been me. I think it's anxiety but who knows, I am working on it and can see and feel the progress though Thank God. If anyone else would like to talk about emotions privately you can PM.

I started reading Joyce Meyers' Battlefield of the Mind at the same time I started this program. I'm surprised when you said it scared you folks, because it didn't do that to me and I am easily afraid. Anyway, so many of the things Lucinda says are the same exact concepts in JM's book, only she comes from the biblical perspective. It's great because it reinforces the program. I got the CD set of "Battlefield" as well and I listen to that all the time - maybe the audio is less scary and would be better for us? It has just been such a great help to me. I will also try the other books you folks mentioned.

If I'm thinking of the right book. . .the one that I read by her talked about Satan putting ideas in your head. That's what freaked me out. Is this the same book?

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Originally posted by VictoriousD:
I get mad it's funny because years ago I would NEVER cry for anything and now when I get real upset with my husband or we get into a heavy argument I can't help but crying I hate it!!! I don't like crying it's never been me.

I think the crying can be a good thing. I know for me it is. . . it's good to show your husband the soft side instead of just yelling at him. Sometimes it actually works to our benefit. At least I know for me when he sees I'm upset and crying instead of yelling he's more apt to settle down and talk with me than if I'm yelling at him.

Same here. When I do cry it reminds him that I have feelings. Yes, you are right! It does mention satan putting things in your head and it did freak me out when I really thought about it. I kind of forgot about that part because so many bible teachers say this sort of thing. I agree with VictoriousD that it is worth getting past because it is so very helpful. When you use the study guide it is better. If you don't mind spending the extra money, you should buy the audio. It's entertaining and you can just put it on when you're driving to work or wherever; very positive. She mixes in a lot of funny stories and still gets the point across. I've been fighting this for years and those CDs are some of the most helpful things I've found, along with this program.

Yea guys the problem with crying is that it's like a very common nightly thing now so he doesn't take me seriously he's just like I don't understand why you are crying it's not the serious and 90% of the time it isn't.

nicely said vic D. I don't think i have thought about it that way.

MIke

I agree with all of you that the materials from Joyce Meyer are wonderful. I just got the CD's from her latest conference "The Confident Woman".You could get it for any size gift. I'm not sure it might have just been for partners. Do you know you can be a partner for any amount? We used to be partners and then couldn't afford it last Dec. You get monthly CDs and it always seems to be just what I need. I was so thankful when I heard any amount. You probably could be a partner for a monthly gift of $2 or $3.
About crying. It really bothers me too Victorious and is very embarrassing at times but I also realize it's a release and I usually feel better after, providing I'm not crying for a long time..then I'm usually feeling miserable and lots of times then it was cuz I was having a pity party. Joyce has some funny talks about us women having pity parties. I love her. She's just hilarious at times. I'll be laughing as I listen to her in the house and my dog will just look at me! Or when I'm driving I might start laughing. Hey, Mike get some Joyce Meyer tapes and she'll make you laugh. My husband went with me one time to a conference and he liked her too. Everyone needs a good laugh.