I could be in the besat mood and then just the littlest thing to my friend or my parents say the wrong thing or ask me too many questions i get this panick feeling and overwelmed feeling and snap. I want to know how to help myself before i get that feling where i snap

what is making you snap? Do you think they are belittling you? It would be helpful if you could give us an example so we can help you determine what is causing the anger.

I get angry when I think someone doesn't approve of what I'm saying or approve of me and then I get anxious. I've been trying to learn not to jump to conclusions and hear them out and see if they are actually being contructive or destructive in their words. If I feel like they are being destructive then I will say something like "I'm sorry I think we are having a misunderstaning, my intention in saying/doing ______ was _________" That way you can make clear your intentions and let them know your side without blowing up and at the same time apologize for coming across a way you didn't intend to. This help defuse the situation and end an argument. When we become defensive it only fules the fire. I hope this helps. Anger is a hard one for me....I get so very angry at things I can't control so it's one thing I have to do lots of work on. I think taking a deep breath before responding is helpful also. Try not to react immediately. Before responding remind yourself that these are people you love and they love you...right now you are having a misunderstanding and your objective is to try and iron it out without hurting someone. Best wishes.....

I really understand this feeling and need alot of work with it. I myself get very defensive immidiately and feel really panicky also. If anyone has anymore useful tips please post, I felt like I was really messed up for feeling like this!!