Hi, right now I'm having the darndest time dealing with deep issues about getting angry at myself. See....I get angry at myself for not achieving my lifes goals as fast as other people are achieving theirs. Ive always had this view of myself as the guy whos too wimpy to achieve what he wants and I think of all the times I never went for my dreams.

I'm so out of the loop and whenver someone disapproves of me or makes fun of me for trying to learn something i wanna advance in........I get EXTREMELY ANGRY inside and stuff it till I wanna blow up....I;ve gotten better though....I got to meetings and write out my anger at others on paper but it doesnt seem to work for anger at myself. This is a process of forgiving myself in which will take a long time probably....I had to vent...thanks for listening.

Changing Times,
You are an awesome person!!! We all reach goals and dreams , one at a time!! And no one does it at the same time!! Stop beating yourself up, there is timing for everything that happens in our lives.Dont start with the biggest goal first, start with the smallest and work your way up. Everytime we acheive a tiny goal, it makes the next one not seem so large. Ben Franklin, said, 'FAILURE IS ONLY THE OPPORTUNITY TO BEGIN AGAIN" . Now to me that is awesome, to know, failures actually teach us how to begin again, we dont have to be angry at ourselves because we dont get it right everytime.All experiences are learning experiences!!! without, we never gain any wisdom or knowledge. You hang in there CT, your doing very well. Give yourself a pat on the back, TAke Care nelly

I can identify with what you are saying. The truth is the sooner you are able to forgive yourself the sooner you will be better. Anger has a purpose and sometimes we need to stand up for ourselves. But if you are beating yourself up and comparing yourself to others I see that as self destructive. I haven't achieved what I wanted in my life either. But what good is being angry at myself going to do, honestly? Spur me on by kicking myself in the butt? It may work for awhile, but what happens when someone else does the same thing to you? Speaking for myself I get very tired of it and eventually I don't respect that person any more because they really don't care about me. And at some point I have a talk with that person to basically tell them where they can go.

That's not the kind of motivation I want to have. I want something that lasts for the long haul. That has to be unconditional love, forgiveness, and compassion for myself, the way a Dad or Mom would encourage me. If you have the program, listening to tape 3,4 and 6 over a period of time can give you some ideas on how to diffuse the anger and eventually let go of it. Hope today is a good one for you. Take good care of yourself and believe in yourself no matter what. It's the fourth quarter of the game for me. Time to put it into overdrive and try and finish well. The past is the past. I can't go back and change anything. All I have is today. Going to simply try without putting undo pressure upon myself, give it all I have, and hope for the best. It worked in basketball years ago, it still works today.

I can relate with that problem! I consider myself a procrastinator. Always think I will do it when I'm ready, but usually wait until its to late. Then I get depressed and mad at myself for letting the opportunity get away. This is one of my main reasons for starting this program. Its already been a help finding out I'm not the only one! In the past I've had to desperately want something to try for it. My first goal now with this program will be to quit starting with a goal thats out of reach and to start thinking about working at things from the time I first think about them. I believe its better to change my mind and give it up. Then not to try and be mad at myself for missing the opportunity.

i am so mad at everyone! i feel they are so stupid!i'm treated like i'm not alive.i am a thinking,feeling human being.feeling so misunderstood.how do i get past my anger?nothing i do is good enough for anyone.i like my pets because they don't expect a preformance from me. just good old food and water and love.not the clothes i wear or how clean the house is.i want people to see me for who i am and not my preformance.

Renata,
First put your anger in perspective.Who and What are you really angry about? I know how you feel, for a long time because i was so frustrated by anxiety, and no one understood, i took my anger out on them. But it was really ME i was mad at. We cant expect people who have never had anxiety to know what we feel, our thoughts, or the body symptoms we have. Thats why no one else physically can help us overcome anxiety but US!! We have to decide to do the work, and its work believe me to get better. There is No magic pill, no ONE person who can do this for you. Took me many years, lots of frustration and anger, for me to realize, I had to do something for myself or i wasnt going to have a life to enjoy. We do matter, but we have to keep giving ourselves good thoughts, and positive thoughts and we have to Love who we ARE!!! Its not someone else who confirms who YOU are, its YOURSELF. i will keep you in my prayers, and WORK THE PROGRAM!!! God Bless you hon