While reading the h/w in this session..i found that my major should or expectation is this program..i have seen change in me..but with the high expectations I have, I feel as if i'm not doing as well as I should be..or I should see more progress by now..or I feel as if maybe Im doing it wrong..I know this is just my negative thinking and anxiety making me think this way..soo just wondering by session 4...or what ever session your on..what should be the expectations for the program

I am on session 10 and my expectation of this program is a process that eliminate/decrease the anxiety/depression in my life.

It has done that and I have had more energy and excitement in my life since starting the program. I am learning how I have narrowed my life and created problems but now letting them go.

Recognizing the negative thinking and obsessive thinking then changing it to a positive thought has been freeing of the mind.

Do not think on the expectations but on the change that you see and feel inside you. Enjoy the moment and look back over your journal in 11 more weeks to see what has happen.

Take care,
Steve

Yes, I know exactly how you feel and if it wasn't for my sweet husband I don't know what I would be doing right now. He has told me several times how even after the second week he could see changes in me and how much it has helped me already and I am so much easier to get along with, etc.,etc. And this being after spending over two weeks on the third session because I didn't feel like I was getting it done and I hadn't been on line for two weeks and was not doing the program every day. So YES it is just our neg-o thinking. Just keep on keepin' on!

Just wanted to encourage others to keep on trying. I haven't gotten out and walked regularly for over two years. I have looked for all kinds of ways to motivate myself. Nothing. Until I started Session 2 of the program. I am up to two miles per day and today was a physically bad day, but I walked. I feel depressed because of cycle time. Yet, I walked. Nothing else has motivated me before.

AJ, I can relate. Although I have no more panic attacks, I still feel that I should be feeling better and out doing more. I am finding that I am frustrated with myself. Today is day two for me in session 4 and I just read over "expectations". Nails it on the head for me. I want immediate gratification. Reading this could not have come at a better time. I am so very thankful to not be experiencing panic attacks and I look forward to more rewards in later days. We must be patient, Hugs, pinkee

why is it that we yearn for immediate gratification so bad? i havent got that part yet? and what does it mean by expect less from people this week? Are they saying dont think twice about what people did do, didnt do, said, or are going to say? any ideas?

This may or may not make sense. The sessions are designed to create change. If you dwell too much on what you are changing, or why you aren't changing you are wasting time analyzing the process. If you follow the guidebook and just keep moving along, you cannot help but begin to change. I've said this a hundred times on posts, your progress is cumulative. It doesn't happen in big Hoorays. It happens with small day to day success. The day you graduate from Session 15 is going to be a big HOORAY. It was for me. I had overcome my depression. Don't skip or skimp. Just follow the guidebook.

Pecos, thanks for sharing. I love reading your comments, they are really helpful for me, pinkee

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Originally posted by Marie85:
why is it that we yearn for immediate gratification so bad? i havent got that part yet? and what does it mean by expect less from people this week? Are they saying dont think twice about what people did do, didnt do, said, or are going to say? any ideas?

Hi Marie,
My interpretation of expect less and get more is as follows.
If we are the kind of person who believes that if we do a good deed or were raised to treat others as we treat them and we get the opposite back it hurts us and we feel let down. If we just do and don't expect anything than we don't set ourselves up for that feeling and anything someone acknowledges makes us feel good.
We also tend to expect only perfection from ourselves and of course nothing is perfect so we set ourselves up for feelings of failure or not being able to live up to unrealistic expectations we set. Again we feel like we failed. OMG I hope that makes some sense to someone.

Sorry I'm a little bit fatigued but did try to explain my take on the subject. LOL

Hope it was clearer than mud..best wishes

My example is of my day ahead. I am reminding myself to not "expect" that this will be a boring day or to not "expect" that I am missing out on something because I am home with my family doing housework and not out and about "trying" to have fun. I am going to stay in the moment. pinkee

Excellent points Pecos, Pinkes and Monty.
Living in the moment and making the most has DEFINITELY helped me to deal with life.
And your explanation was dead on about what we expect from people when we do something. Heck I get upset when my sisters don't respond to my emails like I want them to. But then I realize that there are times when I don't feel like responding to their emails and so now I give myself slack and don't worry about how they respond to me cuz hey, I don't always respond the right was either. I believe God calls this grace. I love grace. It has changed my marriage. Every time I start complaining in my head about my husband, I just think, well, how many times have I done this or that and he just blew it off and then I stop gripping in my mind and I feel a lot better not holding to all that negative stuff.
And lastly Pecos, excellent point about staying on task with the program. I spent almost three weeks on session three trying to fix my negative thinking and almost drove myself crazy till I moved on. It like once you become aware of what you are doing you stay aware. I feel like when I am done with the fifteen weeks I am going to start all over though because I think I have some deep seeded issues but I am so much better now that I look forward to it. Praise God you guys are awesome keep up the good work.

I appreciate all these comments as well. I've been afraid to move on from session three, because I didn't see the results I wanted. I finally decided to move on to 4, and the answer was there in session 4 all along. I realized I was staying aware. This helps alot. thank you.

These various postings are very useful. Thank you for making the suggestions.

This is a quote from Joyce Meyer, a Christian TV evangalist, that I love, especially for this program.

I am not where I want to be, but thank God I'm not where I used to be.