my ex fiance, Nick has bipolar but is not on medications. He has a blood disorder called VonWillowBrahms, which means his blood doesn't clot like mine would. If he gets cut, he could bleed to death. Nick's body builds a fast and high tolerance to any and all medications as well as alcohol. As I go through the program, I realize more and more that Nick has anxiety like I do. "What if" thinking, catasrophising, scary thoughts,etc. I dont know if he realizes he has this. Nick thought at one point that I was cheating on him when the thought never crossed my mind. He'd accuse me with no proof to back it up and I think he got mad because he couldn't prove it one way or another. I know for a fact he has anxiety just like I do. I want to help him as well as myself so we can both be better and happier.
Does anyone have any suggestions, comments, or websites I can visit?
email me at goddesspetals@yahoo.com
Thank you
Rennie

This is a tough one. In order for someone to get better they need to want to get better. If he doesn't feel like he has a problem then you are going to have a difficult time acheiving this. As for the cheating thing, I think that is just natural insecurity that many people have and I wouldn't give it much more thought. You said he has bi-polar and isn't on any meditcation but you didn't mention if he has had any treatment for this and whether or not it is bi-polar I or II and how severe it is? If it is bi-polar II then he definitely needs to treat that before the anxiety and if it is a severe case of bi-polar I he should also focus on treating that before the anxiety as well. Otherwise I would reccommend that you ask him what he would think of using this program or seeing a psychologist.

wren,
my wife is has the same thing. one thing that helped when we first met. we were there for each other. regardless of what each of us was going through. i went through the program. after i did that. it helped me to help her..if you have the same thing that he does...then its hard to help, that is the way i feel. i think that lucinda says that in the program to get through the program first. and to not make any decisions while going through the program..i do hope that it helps...i would think that if both of you work through this then, everything will be just fine..i think that both of you love each other...in life there are all kind of things that pop in our heads..its part of life..we can choose what we want to be. happy or sad.. some require more work..meaning if you want to be sad it does not take much work but, to be happy you have to work through things..take care and i wish you happiness and joy..take baby steps and you can get through it..
don
also i know how drinking plays a big part on where you are now. why because i drink for a long time and missed my children growing up..i look back and what could have been..but i look back and say now look where i came from and how far i have gone..i only look back when i can say something good came from all of it... i could write a book on my life...maybe i will..you write potrey...i think that is so beautiful...write your feeling in words and save them or send for others to read..maybe it will help you work through this...will you think of something that i say..i was thinking of something recently..
2 hands on the bible and the stroke of a pen..
don