Anyone out there find themselves being too judgemental (to themselves) about losing weight? It's like it's one more thing to do.....maybe I'm afraid of failing.

I'm 70 pounds overweight. It's creeped up on me over the last 20 years. And I'm short.

I try to think of just trying to get healthy or feel healthy, instead of counting the pounds.

I lose about 15 lbs, then wander off and give up.

Anyone out there working on their weight?

iam 120lbs overwieght, and it really gets to me but iam unmotivated to exercise and i cant seem to control the food cravings. im going to talk to my dr about wieght loss surgery. i have been overwieght since the age of five and i have poly cystic ovary syndrome which also contributes to the being fat. i feel hopeless most of the time and i want to feel and be healthy. anyways just wanted to add my two cents. lately ive been really aware of how big my belly is. i dont want to be super skinny i just want to look and feel attractive. anyways who cares? Peace and Blessings.

I am aboout 50 lbs overweight. I'll decide to start eating right and then that only lasts about a week. I know I do eat too much. I'm not much of a snacker but I can eat alot of food a t meal time.
When I do decide to start doing something about it I have alot of anxiety, I'll have all the symptoms just thinking about losing weight.
I'm thinking that my weight is covering up some issue but I haven't been able to uncover it as of yet. It is very frustrating and I too feel hopeless like losing weight will never happen.
I do exercise, curcuit training and walking, but I still eat too much.
You're not alone maybe we will figure it out one of these days.

Maybe if we tried replacing one action or one food at a time?

And not look at the scale or measure ourselves?

Many years ago, I gave up potatoes in all forms for Lent (Catholic). After Lent, I had no real yearning for chips, etc for many years.

What do you think? Do you think we could do one little thing different for a week? Then add one more little thing? Not look at the big picture, so we don't get overwhelmed?

That Sounds like a very good idea and probably the way it should be done.
We know what we should be doing to lose weight, but like you said it can be very overwhelming.
I am going to look at the things I eat and see what I change, one at a time and not all at once.
Thanks for the idea.

I've been overweight all my life (I'm 48) and have yo-yoed up and down. I am around 280lbs and want to lose for my health more than vanity. I thought of the surgery but then thought of all the surgery to come when I have all that hanging skin. I'll have some either way I go, but I think less if I lose slower and excercise as I go along. I have come to a conclusion since I recieved the program for Anxiety and Depression, I'm going to cure the problem and not the sympton this time. I truly believe if I can recover from my anxiety and depression, my weight will come off. I am a compulsive eater and food is my comfort for any emotion I'm having at the time. I've only had the program 2 days but already feel 75% better because I can now see there is an end to this and I'm not going to be like this forever. I think (for me personally...as this whole reply is) that if I follow all the steps I will have to lose weight because it's a total life change not just a compartmental fix. But nothing can work if you don't put forth your full participation. And it has to be whole-hearted. After all, it's for you...and don't you deserve 100%? Love yourself more than anything in the world. Everything else will fall into place. I truly believe that and I hope what I've said will inspire you. Believe in yourself!

I really like all the positive input on this thread. You all have given me some ecouragement with your input and your relating. Heres to healthier us. We are beautiful. I am slowly begening to learn to love myself and to trust God more. Thats what its all about for me. I like the idea of changing just one thing at a time thats something I can do. And its not overwhelming for me ( i tend to get overwhelmed real easy)...... Keep up the good work, just admitting you need help or got a problem is a step in the right direction and learning to love yourself everything else will fall into place. Peace and Blessings!

I was 145 overweight and in 13 months I have lost 69 lbs (76 more to go). This is all while still having the anxiety and depression problem. I am on the NutriSystem program, which I recommend. I also walk up and down hills 4 day a week. It's only for about half an hour. You don't have to kill yourself. I started out walking on the level for 20 minutes. I am one of those people who hated exercise, but once I found that it improves my overall mood, I won't miss taking my walk.

Though I am still overweight, I feel so much better about myself in regard to my appearance. I longer think of my self as someone disgusting to look at.

I hear you all. I have been concerned because my father passed away from cardiovascular disease, hardening of the arteries in 2004. That alone has been coming back into my head and telling me I need to take care of myself. I have yo -yo'd from 125 all the way up to 240. I have lost 25 lbs so far, and need to get down to 160 lbs. I am tall, so anything less makes my face look sunk in and my bones stick out, kinda gross looking. I am not doing anything special, just eating more soy products, eliminating fast food/eating out, no sweets. Lots of water and green tea. One gf did a green tea diet, 2 cups before bed (decaf)and lost 40 lbs. Another gf did LA Weightloss program and lost 45 lbs. I am not following any diet regimin, just kinda doing my own thing, but it is working. The weight took time to creep on, it will take time to slip off. I know we can do it. Time and patience. I know we will get there. Lord, please give us the strength to preservere so that we may be healthier.

Warm wishes, LizB

Dear Lefty,

I am soooo happy for you. I have battled extra pounds since I was 10. (I didn't use healthy ways, like walking, and am now paying the price.) I finally hired a trainer to beat me up 3 days a week...I am walking and joined Curves. I, too, believe one of the vital answers is in Move-it.

Keep doing what you are doing...obviously it is working for you. Be well, Carolyn

Thank you, Carolyn.

Hi

I'm about 30 lbs. overweight. I eat healthy now and exercise about 3 times a week. However, the weight is taking a lot a time to come off. It can be very depressing and can really affect your self esteem. I guess I'll keep pluggging along and trust that one day I'll loose it. Everything takes time. Little steps all add up to a big change!

I have a system for starting to correct eating habits. (I don't use the "D" word anymore). I confess this is part of my yoyo pattern but this time I have stayed in control for 2 months and 16 pounds.
When my eating gets out of cntrol, I am no good at cold turkey. I make it all the way to 9pm then binge like a mad woman. I probably would eat more than on before I tried to diet. Finally I learned the 'onething at a time trick'. My first day would be anything but chocolate (my worst temptation). The next day I would try to eliminate other sugars while still allowing chips and other junk. After I got sugar controlled I would move on to eliminate chips. I takes about 3-4 days to stop craving a particular food.
Even if you only take the first one or two steps, you have done something healthy and loving for yourself, so be proud. Be proud of every right choice you make and forget the scale. We gotta work on our heads! the body will follow the head.
Note: the best single item to eliminate is 'high fructose corn syrup'. Real sugar is not as bad as that one.
Lifew is goods
maureen

this was good for me to read right now, I am attending my 10 year high school reunion in about 3 1/2 weeks, I had hoped that I would have lost more weight ny now, but unfortunatly i have gained in the last month! I am down about my weight I am at least 60 lbs over weight and was over weight in high school. I soo wanted to be slimmer and go there feeling acomplished. I am slimmer now than I was in high school but just not as slim as i'd hoped. now that the time has come and Im looking for something flattering to wear, I feel a little depressed about it. fortunatly my husband whom I graduated with and married one year out of high school says that I could wear curlers in my hair and a bath robe and i'd still be the most beautiful girl there in his eyes. This weight thing is a struggle I know, I go to the gym 3 to 4 times a week but still eat way too many sweets and extra servings at dinner time, im going to try the one thing a t a time, i think I will start with Chocholate.

I just started the program, but have been fighting "the weight issue" since approximately third grade. Coincidentally, this is about the time I first remember having anxiety and feeling really not-like-other-kids / depressed. Like Carolyn and maybe others, I tried to control it the dumb way(s) when I was in my teens, and now am paying the price. To add to the whole pile, the stress of some really poorly-managed projects at work put about another 30 lb. on me late last year.

This week, I started the program, and saw something interesting... my urge to snack is tapering off. I'm eating less, I'm eating better. This wasn't "in response" to the program, it just happened that way. I've been off caffeine sodas for about a year now, and the only caffeine I really get is what's in chocolate.

Like someone else mentioned -- I'm really wondering if the weight isn't the real problem, but is instead a SYMPTOM of my anxiety / depression / stress issue (or a reflection of the symptom of emotional eating). I've committed to walking every day (as opposed to every other) while I'm on the program, and I'm thinking I'm going to see the pounds start falling off a little at a time in response to my progress in the program.

Totally agreed that HFCS is the best single thing to ditch, and have been doing that for a while! I already read labels, and will put something right back on the shelf if it's got High Fructose Corn Syrup higher than seventh on the ingredient list.