I just found out that my ex of 9 years is completely crazy over the girl he's with. when I heard that I was devastated. So bad that I felt the anxiety and depression all day and cried myself to sleep. I'm frightened...i pray I get through this and I pray I find happiness and true love.
I know what you are going through. My ex just got married last week to the person she was having an affair with. This may sound bad, but I really don't care she got married, but I have 2 teenage girls that now has to adjust to another family.
Posts: 15 | Location: IN | Registered: February 18, 2008
I understand your pain and I think this is hard for everybody. I know that people have very sensitive reactions to ex-lovers being with other people, because of the memories we have and the times that you were so happy with that person. Let me remind you though, gently, you did break up. I've always kind of kept in mind that a break up means it's broken. It means the relationship needed to end, whether it was your choice of his, it wasn't working anymore. You can't have a functioning relationship if one or both of the people in it aren't feeling it anymore. Everything happens for a reason. Be happy for your ex! Are you more depressed because he has moved on and is happy or are you feeling jealousy because he's with another person? Maybe a combination of both? I had a really hard time getting over my ex and I still felt very sad when he moved on, but I snapped back into reality when I thought about how dysfunctional our relationship was and how glad I wasn't a part of it anymore. I hope sincerely that he is happy (my ex) and it's helped me a lot. It's all about attitude and the thoughts we feed ourselves!
hugs&kisses, Karilynn
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain. Frank Herbert
"How you climb up the mountain is just as important as how you get down the mountain. And, so it is with life, which for many of us becomes one big test followed by one big lesson. In the end, it all comes down to one word: grace. It's how you accept winning and losing, good luck and bad luck, darkness and the light."
Shalini, I know what youre going through. I am so sorry youre feeling pain. It seems like pain over an ex is the worst. I still love my ex and miss him so much and he has moved on and actually moved far away from me. This makes me so sad. bu like karilynn says remember there was a reason why you broke up. i have to keep saying that to myself. i hope youre feeling better!
"There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so"
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