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quote: Originally posted by Wendy:
Work is very difficult. Although I am not yet on this tape, I know that I have anxiety all day long at work and contantly check the forum for comfort. I use self talk all day so that my anxiety does not reach a full blown attack - this is not always easy. When I went back to work, I did so slowly. If you have the ability - try starting back to work on a Wednesday. Work in the morning or as long as you can and then go home and tell yourself how great it was that you made it there. Even if you just drove into the parking lot. The next day try staying a bit longer, etc. Eventually, you will be able to stay all day. It is not easy but if you can gradually ease into it it does help somewhat. Good luck...
Thank you Wendy for your words of widsom, I will try this. Got up this morning and just the thought of going to work sends up anxiety up. trying self-talk to calm and let myself know it is okay to feel this way haven't been to work in 3 months you will use the tools you have learned to get through this. it help but doesn't take it alway. i'll just keep trying. thanks again for you support. kelly |
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quote: Originally posted by klv:
I need help with this, one of my limations is returning to work. In this session we are to work on our limations. I have general anxiety all day. It has gotten better. When I think about returning bk to wrk my anxiety goes up high. I need some help with this. If any one has or has had this experience pls share with me. HELP!
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quote: Originally posted by klv:klv,
I am a teacher and get really anxious before school starts. It usually starts about a month before school.
I need help with this, one of my limations is returning to work. In this session we are to work on our limations. I have general anxiety all day. It has gotten better. When I think about returning bk to wrk my anxiety goes up high. I need some help with this. If any one has or has had this experience pls share with me. HELP!
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KLV, Hi! I had the same problem with going back to work. I have not worked in 8 mos and went back last week. I was pretty nervous on the first day...1, because I have to drive 40 min (I could not drive there for awhile!) and 2, because I was afraid...what if something would happen. But then Ijust talked to myself... If I have to leave, I can always do so (it's not like they will fire me that fast!  ). If I get nervous, I know how to calm myself down...and I'll bet that you do too! I also thought, if I do this, and help myself with doing other things careerwise to help my life it will be worth it. Needless to say, I for the most part enjoy my job (I have a question for you all in which I will post here in a few min!). I work 10 hr days, which freaked me out at first, but I'm so busy during the day that I forget! You are in control of when you go to work...for the most part. I think even Lucinda says that in the tapes (I can't remember for sure). You can do it! Maybe you should start out slowly (I dove right in, I guess), but I am certain you can do it! Just take your time and don't hurry to work and feel like you need to be there at a certain time (this helps me a lot). I used to be running so quick in the morning b/c I got up so late all the time. Now I get up a little early and I usually have time so I listen to the relaxation tape before leaving. That seems to help me also! Anyway, I won't write a book here! I hope that this helped you in any way it can! Take care and good luck going back to work! Cindy |
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quote: Originally posted by cysmith5150:
KLV,
Hi! I had the same problem with going back to work. I have not worked in 8 mos and went back last week. I was pretty nervous on the first day...1, because I have to drive 40 min (I could not drive there for awhile!) and 2, because I was afraid...what if something would happen. But then Ijust talked to myself... If I have to leave, I can always do so (it's not like they will fire me that fast! ). If I get nervous, I know how to calm myself down...and I'll bet that you do too! I also thought, if I do this, and help myself with doing other things careerwise to help my life it will be worth it. Needless to say, I for the most part enjoy my job (I have a question for you all in which I will post here in a few min!). I work 10 hr days, which freaked me out at first, but I'm so busy during the day that I forget! You are in control of when you go to work...for the most part. I think even Lucinda says that in the tapes (I can't remember for sure). You can do it! Maybe you should start out slowly (I dove right in, I guess), but I am certain you can do it! Just take your time and don't hurry to work and feel like you need to be there at a certain time (this helps me a lot). I used to be running so quick in the morning b/c I got up so late all the time. Now I get up a little early and I usually have time so I listen to the relaxation tape before leaving. That seems to help me also! Anyway, I won't write a book here! I hope that this helped you in any way it can! Take care and good luck going back to work!
Cindy
Thank you so much Cindy for your advice. When I think about returning to work in the mornings now I have the dry heaves, not throughing up or anything i have an up set stomach and i have the shakes and my anxiety goes up. I use my self talk not sure if it really works just yet. It doesnt seem to calm me like i would like it to. I take xanax, it helps some but not completely. I ask myself what is it that is so bad about returning back to work? The fear for failure, having a panic attach, not being able to handle the job, not really sure. I guess I just need to face my fear and do it anyway. Do you have any words for self talk to help me with returning to work? If so pls share. God Bless Kelly |
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| Posts: 11 | Location: stafford,texas,fort bend | Registered: May 14, 2001 | |
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quote: Originally posted by Wendy:
KLV-
What about just driving to the parking lot on the first day? Then go in the second day for an hour. All the while remembering to congratulate yourself for each baby step. Let me know how it goes - I will be thing about you.
-Wendy
Hi Wendy, I will try what you speak of and see if it will work, I have written a plan of action with some positive self talk. This is one part of the session that I seemn to have a hard time with. Its like i'am looking for the worst to happen. and that is what i dont want to happen. Some help with self talk would help if you have some. Really havent found anything yet will comfort me in time of anxious moments. Not sure why? Any suggestion? God Bless Kelly |
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Hi - Returning to work was difficult for me too. Due to the anxiety, panic and depression I had not been in the work force for over 2 years and I was so scared that technology had passed me by and I was also concerned about my ability to handle the kind of job I had always had which was high stress and full time. The drive there and back was also a biggie for me, as my safety zone was pretty much a 1-2 mile radius from my home. I decided my best course of action was to look for a part-time postion not far from my home. I did find a job like that this past January. It eventually proved to be not a good match for me, but I stayed for 5 mos. and it was a real confidence booster. The drive was 8 miles each way and after the first couple of weeks, it was easier. My husband had to follow me there and back on two occassions, but other than that it was a great opportunity for me to see what I could handle and the funny thing was I was afraid of too much stress and I was actually bored on this job, and I did desire more responsibility, but like I said it was not a good match and I left to take the summer off. I'll be looking again for something a bit more challenging once the summer is over. I think the key for me was working within my limitations, yet challenging myself in small ways at the same time. Doing it this way kept my anxiety to a minimum while at the same time it was stretching my limitations. Good luck to you, Calico
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quote: Originally posted by calico:
Hi - Returning to work was difficult for me too. Due to the anxiety, panic and depression I had not been in the work force for over 2 years and I was so scared that technology had passed me by and I was also concerned about my ability to handle the kind of job I had always had which was high stress and full time. The drive there and back was also a biggie for me, as my safety zone was pretty much a 1-2 mile radius from my home. I decided my best course of action was to look for a part-time postion not far from my home. I did find a job like that this past January. It eventually proved to be not a good match for me, but I stayed for 5 mos. and it was a real confidence booster. The drive was 8 miles each way and after the first couple of weeks, it was easier. My husband had to follow me there and back on two occassions, but other than that it was a great opportunity for me to see what I could handle and the funny thing was I was afraid of too much stress and I was actually bored on this job, and I did desire more responsibility, but like I said it was not a good match and I left to take the summer off. I'll be looking again for something a bit more challenging once the summer is over. I think the key for me was working within my limitations, yet challenging myself in small ways at the same time. Doing it this way kept my anxiety to a minimum while at the same time it was stretching my limitations. Good luck to you, Calico
Hi Calico Thank you for sharing your experience with me. Working shouldnt ne a big deal, but it is. I know as a single mother I have to return bk to work to take care of my four children. Right now I am staying with my x husabnd which has been nice but i cant depend on him forever. I need to get my independence back. I will be using all of the advice from everyone that has been so concerened about me. Its so nice to know that there are so many people out there that care and want to see each of us get better. It brings tears to my eyes when I think about it. and on top of the I have just lost my 3rd sister to sucide, which has also made all of this diffucult to deal with. and then my 2nd daughter suffers of OCD, and she is having a hard time with this and is afraid to go back to school for fear she is going to get sick and die. So my plates is very full at this time. I thank you for you kind words. God Bless, Kelly |
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KLV - I was absolutely stunned when I read your reply to my post about your sisters and your daughter - it is so hard to know what to say to that except that I am so very, very sorry for what you have been going through. I sincerely hope that you have a good support system all around you to help you through this. After I read your post, I thought to myself that your going back to work is the least of your problems right now, but you would know best. I just deeply encourage you to get some support in place if you don't have it - you are going to need to in the days ahead. Please keep us informed about how you are doing. BIG HUG, Calico
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Shad Helstetter's books about how to talk to yourself really was a turning point for me. I heard about him here on the forum in the area where we're supposed to read a positive book. His books are old and hard to find.
I checked out "What to say when you talk to yourself" from the library on TAPE and listened to it for a couple of weeks. It is great. It makes a lot of sense and helps me stop saying things that aren't productive. I NEVER say, "I'm gonna try to work soon", I now say "I no longer feel anxious when I think about going back to work. I look forward to going back into the workforce. I feel really good about myself when I am working and being productive at a job."
While I'm out on my DAILY walk I sing to myself, "I like to walk, I am so happy that I no longer have anxiety, I no longer have headaches, I no longer have panic attacks, etc." He said to talk to yourself as if you have already changed and I did and it worked. I haven't had a headache since listening to his tapes and putting it into practice. I used to get bad headaches and migraines at least once or twice week.
YES---it works. I so surprise myself everytime I am in a restaurant and either don't panic (most of the time) and if I get that awful rush of panic I pull myself immediately back to NO PANIC.
This program is a lifesaver!
Betsy
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Always Hopeful, Betsy H.
Marietta, GA (East Cobb)
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quote: Originally posted by EastCobbGABetsyH:
Shad Helstetter's books about how to talk to yourself really was a turning point for me. I heard about him here on the forum in the area where we're supposed to read a positive book. His books are old and hard to find.
I checked out "What to say when you talk to yourself" from the library on TAPE and listened to it for a couple of weeks. It is great. It makes a lot of sense and helps me stop saying things that aren't productive. I NEVER say, "I'm gonna try to work soon", I now say "I no longer feel anxious when I think about going back to work. I look forward to going back into the workforce. I feel really good about myself when I am working and being productive at a job."
While I'm out on my DAILY walk I sing to myself, "I like to walk, I am so happy that I no longer have anxiety, I no longer have headaches, I no longer have panic attacks, etc." He said to talk to yourself as if you have already changed and I did and it worked. I haven't had a headache since listening to his tapes and putting it into practice. I used to get bad headaches and migraines at least once or twice week.
YES---it works. I so surprise myself everytime I am in a restaurant and either don't panic (most of the time) and if I get that awful rush of panic I pull myself immediately back to NO PANIC.
This program is a lifesaver!
Betsy
Thank you Besty for your advice it really has helped. I have this book, I need to get the tapes and listen to them like you have. And put them to use in the manner that you have. Like this is already happening. Not be so negative and hard on myself. I will use some of the self talk you used and an example. I sure that it will help. You sound as if you really are on the road to recovery and I am happy for you. You sound like a wounderful person. It would be great to have someone like you around all the time. Its hard being a single parent of 4. If you don't mind I would like to talk to you more often could really use the support. Could I call you sometime? Best reguards and God Bless, Kelly |
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quote: Originally posted by calico:
KLV - I was absolutely stunned when I read your reply to my post about your sisters and your daughter - it is so hard to know what to say to that except that I am so very, very sorry for what you have been going through. I sincerely hope that you have a good support system all around you to help you through this. After I read your post, I thought to myself that your going back to work is the least of your problems right now, but you would know best. I just deeply encourage you to get some support in place if you don't have it - you are going to need to in the days ahead. Please keep us informed about how you are doing. BIG HUG, Calico
Hi Calico, Thank you for your support and you heart felt feeling. I need all the support I can get right now. Its so very hard to work this program and greif and help my daughter. All words of incouragemenmt is appreciated and AI hope that you will be here to lend a ear for me. Do want to get back to work maybe this will help. I'll have to use all the postive talk I can get pls keep in touch with me for I do need you and the people here. Thnks and God Bless Kelly |
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