this may sound repetitous,as this is not the first time i have mentioned this, but i am going on a holiday at the end of next month, and i am freaking, i went to the travel agency today (with the friend i am travelling with),and just confirming the trip sent me into a day of anxiety... what if i feak out on the plane?... what if i freak out on this tiny remote island, and can't get home to my safe place (i prefer to panic in the comfort of my own home, makes it easier to deal with), what if i wreck the vacation by spending the entire time worrying about this panic monster,,, etc, i am going on this trip b/c i am determined to squash the panic monster, i love travelling, i refuse to surrender, but yet, i am so scared, my palms are sweating just thinking about the flight, and remoteness of the place (i have been to this spot before, and last time, i spent the holiday mostly in panic mode... i had a pretty bad car accident the day before we left on holidays, i wasn't badly hurt, just bruises, and whiplash, but i think it freaked me out, and i tried to play all brave,and not accept that i was freaked out.. and the guy who hit me was drunk.. anyways. blah blah)
just looking for a little support... 42 days and counting till i board the giant skymonster
colleen

Wow, I could have written your post a hundred times. The thing I find so fascinating and frustrating is that if you look at the facts and the overwhelming evidence, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. I know this because I have been doing this for over 30 years and I have never freaked out. But I have ruined lots of days worrying about it, and knowing intellectually that nothing was going to happen has not really made me feel any better.

The one thing I can say is that you have 40 days to focus your attention on working this program, which will help you to feel better, and will be good for you.

The one thing that has worked more effectively for me than anything else is to try and let the feelings happen. Without resistance the thoughts lose their power.

Good Luck.

jim
thanks... so true
i just finished listening to lesson 8 (again, keep getting stuck on 2, 3 and 8..... and 10 LOL)
i know you are right, because the days i don't pay attention to these thoughts are the days when i don'tfeel anxious or panicky.
40days hmmm, i should be ready by then (either way i am going)
peace and love
colleen

Hi Colleen
Check out my post on generalized anxiety called OH.MY.GOD. If I can do this, so can you...I am having exactly the same thoughts as you, in fact, it could have been me writing the darn thing! we are gonna do this together, ok?

Hi Colleen. A friend of mine said to me 'thinking doesn't mean doing'. Which is so true. I have been worrying about freaking out since I was at school. I used to think that I might stand up and scream in assembly or run riot on a school trip etc etc. 15 years later I still think I might do it but never have. And at the end of the day, so what if you did freak out on the plane - you wouldn't be the first one to, nor the last - but it wouldn't achieve anything would it.

Tell your friend how you feel and I bet she has had similar thoughts too. In fact, I can guarentee that everyone has worried about losing control at some stage in their lives, it's just that people like us worry about it that little bit more until it becomes obsessive.

Good Luck!

Hi Koko it's Chrissy how are you? I haven't been able to email anyone I am working on getting it fixed. I can recieve them but can't send please tell the girls in the group sorry!!! I miss talking to you guys. Well take care I will try and send an email later take care sweety!!!