I'm starting a new job after 25 years at my old one. My therpist told me that I have a lot of bad memories at my job and that I should start thinking about moving on. I knew she was right, but I never thought that I would go and look for another one. Well, I did and I got one. I start next week and at first I was so excited now that the time is getting closer I am questioning every thing. Can I do it, what if I go and get nervous. I want this job so much and am really looking forward to starting it, but I have to worry. I wish that I was starting it tomorrow. I just went a bought a bunch of new clothes, which was fun. The job is in a bank. I know that I can do the job, most of it is leaving my friends at my old job, but I really hated my old job and I know that it's time to move on. The day that I heard that I job my new job, the owner at my old job came in and told us that the company was closing. So it was perfect timing. It's just the thought of starting over. Can anyone relate to the feeling of excitement then anxiety about it? My husband is so proud of me for looking for a new job because I have talked about it so many times, but never did anything about it, until now. I've come a long way, but don't have much self esteem, because of all problems I had at my old job. Mostly with my boss and so called friends that I used to have. Just wanted to know if anyone has had this feeling of not knowing if things will be alright?

Deb
I totally relate. You are brave. Starting over is not easy, but I bet it will be very rewarding. Some people LOVE starting over, and over, and over. Enjoy the newness and let us know how you're doing. Tammy

I am starting a new job in a couple of weeks too. I have been very stressed quite some time now about the distance I drive to work. I figured that this was somethinG I could do something about. So I did. I, too, have second thoughts, but I'm getting paid a little more money and I'm 5 minutes from home now. Praise God! But I look at it as a new beginning and possibly a way to take my mind off of my problems, which I really don't know exactly what they are. I know what the physical symptoms of my anxiety are, but I really don't know why they are so persistent. Anyway, good luck and God bless.

Annette,
Thanks for the reply. Well, tomorrow is the day and today is my last day at my old job. It is going to be very hard to leave my friends. I work with my best friend and it's going to be hard not seeing her everyday, but like you said it's a new beginning and I can still see her and call her as much as I want. I know that I can do it and am going to do it.I have had so much encouragment from friends and family. It's just that we don't think that we can do things that other people know we can. One minute I'm saying I can do this and then the next is I don't know. I have been using a lot of self talk lately. Positive, Positive, Positive. My husband says this to me everyday. I'll keep every one posted on how things go. Wish me luck!!!!!!!
Deb

Deb,
Just wondering how you are doing on your new job. I just finished my first week. I was kind of bored because my other job was a lot more exciting. I was a critical care nure working with open heart patients mostly. My new job is dialysis. I can't do much now but follow my preceptor around and clean machines and set them. I have to have a class that lasts 3 weeks before I can really get into the real stuff. The hours are great though. Unlike the hospital, we actually close at 4:45 daily, and work no holidays or Sunday's. That I am grateful for. Everyone there is very nice. There is one person I don't think I'm going to like very well, but hopefully we won't have any problems. Anyway, I'm not the sort of person to argue with anyone on the job. I say what I need to and move on. I miss all of my friends from the other job. I am going to counseling and he is helping me set goals for myself. I am 41 years old, and I have forgot how to have fun outside of work. At work I was always a nut. I enjoy making people laugh, and I hate being so serious all the time. At home it is a different story. My husband likes to have fun, but not with me. He barely talks to me. We pass in the hallway, he hugs me, tells me he loves me, and goes to the room where smoking is allowed in our home. Since there is a tv in that room with cable, and he smokes constantly, he stays in there. And since I am allergic to smoke, I stay out of there. sorry for rambling on, I really just wanted to see how you are doing. Annette

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Annette,
I have been at my new job for 2 weeks now. I'm working as a bank teller at a great bank. Everyone is so nice. The first week I trained with a couple of girls and by the end of the week, one of the girls quit. Then I found out that the other girl is related to me, so that was nice. Then I found out that our trainer used to work with my sister,so that was nice too. I was very anxious the first week, wondering if I did the right thing. I had talked aboutlooking for another job and finally just did it. I didn't think that I had it in me, but I guess you don't know until you try. This past week I have been training on the teller line and it was so overwhelming at times. I had times when I said to myself I can't do this. I know that I could, but with my low self esteem, that plays a part. But as the days went by, I did better and better. I have a great trainer on the line, even though she could be my daughter. They all say that it takes time to learn. When I am there all my worries go away, because you have to spend so much time paying attention to what you are doing. Last night, I had a anxious thought about what if I don't like it, I would have to quit and I know that I don't what to quit, I was just trying to scare myself. I worked my way past that thought. At my last job, I was great at what I did and like Lucinda says, we are all great workers and give 100% and she is right. I try to get along with every one and try and make people laugh and since this job is new and I had been at my old job for so long, it's going to take time to get adjusted to a new job and new people. There is some phone work, which I don't like talking on the phone to people that I don't know, so that is causing some of my anxiety, but I will have to deal with that as it comes. Thanks for wondering how my new job was going. I hope that things work out for you too. Doing what you do for a job must make you feel so good. Helping people. If ever you need to talk, I'm here.
Deb

Hi Deb,
Well I finished my first week. The first three days were pretty boring because all I did mostly was follow my preceptor around and observe. I started to have scary thoughts Wednesday night wondering if I had made the right decision. I started to feel depressed. Then I thought how embarrassed I'd be if I went right back to my old job just like they said I would. I just had to tell myself more positive things like how much closer I am to home, and that the money is a little better, and that I needed to give myself time to get adjusted. Everyone there is pretty nice. There is one person I don't particularly care for, but I think in time it'll be ok. I've never had a job where I got all major holidays off before and all Sundays. I am very happy about that. Thursday and Friday were better. I think part of my feeling down on Wednesday is the change in my sleeping hours. I have to be at work very early on this job. I've had to get adjusted on going to bed earlier. But I think all in all, I'm going to like not driving so far in the winter. We'll see. Besides, my other job told me I'll always have a spot there. So I know that either way, I'll be fine. I am really glad you are doing ok. Good luck, Annette