I'm having a tough time this week. Everything was going very well until Monday. Then, my best friend/support person informed me that he's moving in July (most likely). I knew that it would be coming/happening sooner or later, because of his job. I tried to plan for it and be able to accept it, but it hasn't worked that way. I got horribly depressed and I've cried a LOT this week. He's not moving that far away, but it's a "change" that I'm not happy about and things with our relationship will be affected. Also, my everyday life will be affected by him being gone, because of the job he has. He doesn't know who will replace him. Anyway, I'm having a multitude of problems with this whole situation. LOTS of anticipatory anxiety. Bad stuff. Another problem is that I'm having a hard time expressing my feelings to him about it, so he's not able to help me. It doesn't seem to be bothering him. That bothers me, too. Any suggestions?
Posts: 225 | Location: Belton, MO | Registered: December 01, 2003
you sound like you are having a problem I was...you are depending on him way to much. I always held my husband as my safe place I would get totally freeked out if he went more than 20 minutes away..is this what you are doing? Mabe you need to work on looking inward more for advice and comforting? I remember that at the begining of the program they kept stressing how we are our own "best friend" our own safe place...It took me quite awhile to get that into my head haveing been sick for so long and all. You also might want to pop into the chat room on here there is alot of people on the program who use it all hours of the day and night! It really sounds to me like you need to expand your net of people you go to for advice and not depend so much on one person he is human after all right? take care