I could use someone's imput on how to just let something go and get on with my life. I do independant contract work and about 2 months ago I worked for a prior employer. It was a one day job, only for a few hours in the early afternoon. I hadn't done this type of work in a few months and was feeling a little unsure of myself. Everything went fine until the last part and I kind of messed it up. When I tried to fix it, I made it worse. My bosses are perfectionists and felt it was unacceptable. They had to fix it themselves later. I apologized and took responsibility for the mess up, however my one boss (who likes to push everyones buttons) continued to heckle me about it, and for taking so long and costing him more money. Two weeks later I went to my new-agey chiropractor where she discovered that some of my pain was stress from this incident. I thought I had let it go, but I was carrying it around and letting it effect me. I finally did what I could to eliminate the stress (not working there for 2 mos helped!), but now I have to work there again this week. My boss has already made a crack about the incident to a friend of mine,who told me. I got very angry and immediatel defensive about it to the friend and felt I needed to explain the situation. I'm now preparing myself to deal with this boss when he says something to me this week. My question is how do I eliminate the anger before it happens? My boss is the type to pick harder on someone who stands up for themselves, so I know discussing how it makes me feel with him isn't the way to go in this case. Any suggestions? Thanks.

Chris

Keep your reply short, to the point and then walk away. You will just have to be the better person here and let it go in one ear and out the other, you know? Do you really want to let this person affect your whole day, week or month like he has already done? It isn't worth it. Your time is to precious to waste on a person you do not even like, right?

Silvana

You are absolutely right, I just need to not pay attention to him and do my job. Maybe I'll wear headphones all day!

I'd say,"Well, no one's perfect." And walk away. So what! Does everyone do every job perfect? Of course not. My husband has made mistakes too and has had to fix them. I have! Or tell him - thank goodness this world has you in it to fix everyone's mess ups. Anyways, his opinion of you doesnt make you who you are. The problem is fixed and let it go. If you are still thinking about it then its like you are taking him with you where ever you go. He doesnt sound like someone I'd like to have around me.
Hope the next job goes smooth for you.
Reena