It is my humble opinion that what many take for standing up for themselves and speaking out is nothing more than verbal abuse of others. Any critical remarks or corrections made to a person in the presence of others is what I refer to. As well as such comments made in a hurtful manner even in private. It takes great skill to correct or confront in such a way as to respect the dignity of another. I have found that trying to create humor in it helps alot, a kind of gentle,goodhearted tease. One need not raise one's voice to be guilty of verbal abuse. I find it a great challenge to so speak as to accomplish the necessary while respecting the dignity of others. Feedback?

I agree with what you have said and know that this is something I lack. I do try but I do not always accomplish what I set out to do, in the right manner. Humor is a great way to go about it but sometimes it is not warranted. As long as I keep trying I feel I will get there and also I can accept that I will sometimes fail as will others when they speak to me. We are just human and with that I can forgive and hope that I have been forgiven.

Silvana

Here Here!!

I agree also but sometimes people push your buttons. I like the "I" messages and the positive, wrap around approces but, I admit, I'm still working on perfecting them. This section is a challenge for me.

I believe it is important to let others know how you feel about a particular situation. It doesn't need to come out in a negative way, although sometimes the truth hurts. So if your being truthful to someone about what has transpired, and they appear to take it in a negative way, perhaps you've hit the mark and what you are telling them is the truth.
Sander