Dr. Napolitano
She interpreted my behavior, when she said "good morning" to me as negative. I didn't think I was rude or even made a face.

I don't think I should have to put on an act or pretend to be happy (smile) when I see someone.

I felt that as a therapist, she should understand that I am going through a hard time (transition) and be more sensitive to my feelings.

Maybe she was trying to help by pointing out the impact of my behavior on other people but I felt like she was picking on me and being mean to me.

I was honest about the way I felt (regret it) -- she didn't like me telling her about what I thought about her when I first met her.
That I didn�t want to be there and why. Wanting to meet her a few times before made a decision.
She said that if I don�t like her I don�t have to stay: I was trying to explain that I don�t know if I like her or not yet!

How am I supposed to act? I don't want to piss her off, but I also feel that it is my right to express myself without having to worry about what the therapist might think.

If a therapist is a professional, shouldn't they know/understand how shy/depressed people act?

okay, thanks, I am trying to give her a "chance."

I'll see her next week and see what happens from there

tahirra, follow your heart. give her another chance......and if you still don't feel right about her, don't add more anxiety to what you already have. therapists while needing to be honest are also suppose to be helpful.

tahirra,
im sure you know, saying "Good Morning" is a pleasantry most everyone uses. She wasnt assuming you were happy, she was just acknowledging that she was there and saying, Good Morning. I know you have had several therapists who have left for varied reasons, but it really isnt Dr Napoleno's fault. She may be the best therapist you have ever had. None of us can go by two sessions. First time i met my therapist, i was a nervous wreck to, and he walked in smiling and said, Good Afternoon. Im glad he didnt come in with gloom and doom on his face, that would of just made me feel worse. After we talked for an hour, i found his positive attiude refreshing, cause i sure didnt have one at the time. I was so nervous i could hardly sit still, but after 4 sessions, i really began to listen to him, and liked him. So, give it a chance to see if your personalitys click. Take care hon

thanx, I've been ruminating about it most of the day
I will see her eagain next week, and keep you guys posted.

tahirra,
you have a week before you go again. Try to think positive all this week before your next appt. in fact, if you can, write down, and think about it first, is there anything that you like about your new doctor. I know you have only seen her twice, but even ONE thing positive about her will help you next time. LIke, do you like her smile, her hair, maybe her voice, something that you noticed a bout her, that you like. Try it and see if that works, Luv ya hon nelly

It went a little betetr today. i was able to tell her how I felt and why.
We cleared up some misunderstandings/miscommunications.
I am still sad about the transition, which is okay (okay to be sad).
I am still nervous/heart racing from the session

Hopefully it will get easier with time.

Hi, I just saw this today...I made an appointment with Dr Napolitano for next week...I was wondering what you thought of her now? How did it go? I am a bit concerned because of some of the things you said.
You can be honext
Thanks,
Jody

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She was absolutely awful!

She was judgmental, reactive, insensitive, and unapologetic about it all. She went so far as to try and diagnose/label me within the first 30min of our encounter, and actually called me "crazy".

Her receptionist was so lewd she dressed as if her boobs were hanging out. It was a thoroughly disgusting encounter.

Don't give up. I remember Lucinda saying on one of the tapes that we would change and that our family may not like it, that if we seem more agressive or whatever that we will swing back to a lower level as the program goes on. She mentioned how the family has gotten used to us being perhaps dependant on them, having to cheer us up. Perhaps you remember this, or perhaps it was in the information for the partner to listen to.

Anyway, it sounds like you are doing good and keeping on track. You really want to get better. This might be a good time to have a consulation with MW Ctr to just check on all this. I know you love your wife and she's been very supportive.

Take care

thank you for the e-mail,it helped,i guess it was that world against me thing i have to let go.it passed,and your right,i let ruin my day yesterday.but its cool, im back.thanks to people like you.you restored my faith in people.

If I went to buy a dress, and the staff at the store was rude and made me feel uncomfortable for any reason, I would buy my dress elsewhere. I don't know what other people pay for their dresses, but mine are a heckuva lot cheaper than my doctor. For the money I pay my psychiatrist, I expect excellent value; I demand it. I "fired" three before I found the right doc, but it was worth the trouble. I was still in a foul mood when I went to see him, but it didn't matter. I knew I was in the right place. We may be depressed and/or anxious, but it doesn't prevent us from knowing whether or not a patient/doctor relationship is going to work. Trust your instincts! Best of luck to you.