I know that in order to reduce my anxiety I am supposed to be assertive & ask for what I need. But when I do, I only get frustrated. I may be told ok, like I'm going to receive what I need, but very quickly, I realize that it's not going to happen. It just makes me more angry & stressed than before. Not only are my needs not being met, I'm being basically lied to, and refused. I've thought out how I will ask & done it in the best way I know, so I don't think the problem is in the way I am asking. Do I try to meet my own needs without help from anyone else, or do I keep asking & become more frustrated?