I am a negative thinker and knew this before I started Session 3 and even the tapes. I just keep having these negative thoughts that I am always going to have the panic. I need to know how to get over this and stop thinking this way. I want to have a normal life. I dont have any limitations that I know of. I have a huge fear of dying and always being like this. Does anyone have any suggestions?

You are not alone. I too think like you. The tape says to write down the negative thoughts replacing them with positive thoughts. I got my little note book opened it up and wrote several thoughts that I had been allowing to revolve around in my brain today. Then I replaced them with positive selft talk. Taking each one and ansering it with a positive thought. ie: Friend was so dismissive yesturday at Church. She thinks she is more important than me. Re thinking: Friend was trying to visit with others, we had several good chats already. She is busy, because she is over seeing and working in the Christmas Eve program. To tell the truth I have one negative thought after another and the writing down gets me to work on myself. When we have little children especially and feel they are so dependant on us, we tend to have a huge fear of dying. Maybe you need to replace this thought with a positive one. Like: I have been to my estate lawyer, I have chose a good guardian for my children, I am building an estate that will take care of them. I have done all that is humanly possible to take care of them. Or: This is negative self talk, I need to relax and get my mind on positive work.

THERE IS DOME THINGS THAT GOD HAS TOLD ME WILL HAPPEN. I WAS THINKING TODAY THAT IF I DIE THOSE THINGS CAN'T HAPPEN. THE PERSON WHO WROTE BEFORE ME IS RIGHT. IF YOU GET A GUARDIAN FOR YOUR KIDS YOU CAN USE THAT AS POSITIVE SELF TALK BECAUSE EVEN IF THE WORST DOES HAPPEN YOU CAN TELL YOUSELF THAT YOU HAVE IT COVERED.

My husband and I have went to an estate lawyer and have everything in the works. But I still cant get over this negative thinking. I keep feeling like I am not going to get over this. My husband tells me that I have to tell myself that I am going to get over this because I am. Also, I keep feeling like I am putting these feelings in the back of my mind and just going through the motions of life.

Sounds like you are already on your way to making changes - just give yourself time. I also have times when I think I'll never get over this, but I just try to not make such a big deal out of it. Everyone has issues in their life to work on, so if we can downplay it, we will actually give it less power over us. Easier said than done, but just know there are others out here that have similar struggles. You can do it - one thought at a time!!!

I tried the journaling, and it helped. I had to go to an interview at a temp agency. I wrote down my negative thoughts and replaced them with reality or positive thoughts. I was able to calm myself down. Get dressed and go to the interview. Things started happening. I forgot my resume. I got lost and was late for my appointment. I was taking their little typing test, logged in for the test (I thought). It turned I did the practice test and had to do it over again. I was sweating bullets. Did the same with the numeric part. My head was spinning. I did manage to stay calm. I kept repeating "Give it to God. You are ok. This could just be a practice interview. What did I learn from this. It turned out they were impressed with me, and told me that I could just e-mail my resume. Ohh My Gosh!!

I think very negative also and my negative toughts are that or scary thougts are that i am going to die and not being able to see grow my children and my thoughts are that i am gone a die and i am so afraid of that and also i think i am going to be like that always

dying use to be a big fear of mine. I don't think of it too much anymore. Besides, what would the world do without me. You could tell yourself; true I will die someday, but not today. I am just fine. My children are fine, and I will enjoy them now.

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Originally posted by twinboysmom:
I just keep having these negative thoughts that I am always going to have the panic. I need to know how to get over this and stop thinking this way.

I am struggling with this very same problem right now. I think the key is paying attention to our thoughts and continuously replacing the negative thoughts with positive ones.

I started doing this in Week 1 since this is my second time going through the program. I decided to try using technology to aid me with this process. I bought an iphone about 6 months ago when I was feeling considerably better not thinking it would be able to help me as I go through the program. It has the ability to record / playback / add to recordings etc... obviously it's also my phone. It also has a notepad feature on it that allows me to type in positive empowering thoughts that I have replaced my negative thoughts with . So anytime I am feeling particularly anxious about a particular thought. I can find the positive counter thought and say that instead. Eventually through repetition I should be able to memorize most of the positive though ts and replace them right away.

As far as new negative thoughts, as I am thinking them I record them in my phone so that I can either play it back after work and come up with a good positive thought for it or I can come up with one right then and there and repeat it after the negative thought. Either way, I will have all my thoughts to use at my disposal.

It also has been coming in really handy with journaling. Instead of journaling on paper, I just talk into the microphone on my phone. So far It has been working great. I am remembering the thoughts better than if I had to carry around the spiral notebook. It is also very inconspicuous as I don't worry about if other people are looking at me weird walking around writing in my little notebook. It's a phone. Just looks like I am texting. As if we don't have enough to worry about. Right.

Wow thats awesome..I can relate to that expierience. Im glad you were able to use that thinking to change your attitude about the situation!!!!!

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Originally posted by Pamelab:
I tried the journaling, and it helped. I had to go to an interview at a temp agency. I wrote down my negative thoughts and replaced them with reality or positive thoughts. I was able to calm myself down. Get dressed and go to the interview. Things started happening. I forgot my resume. I got lost and was late for my appointment. I was taking their little typing test, logged in for the test (I thought). It turned I did the practice test and had to do it over again. I was sweating bullets. Did the same with the numeric part. My head was spinning. I did manage to stay calm. I kept repeating "Give it to God. You are ok. This could just be a practice interview. What did I learn from this. It turned out they were impressed with me, and told me that I could just e-mail my resume. Ohh My Gosh!!

I find when I start thinking negative about someone and going over and over in my mind what I could say or do in a situation with that person I say STOP. Then I say a positive prayer for that person asking God to bless them. D.L.