Hi all, I got up to lesson 5, but then , I felt that I really needed to start all over again. I'm up to lesson 3 again. I'm really having trouble , first of all keeping track of the negative thoughts, and then trying to turn them into something positive, but realistic. My problem, is that alot of times I think my negative thoughts are valid. does anyone else have the same problem? Thanks for any input!!!
Hally

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Hally: I was so glad to see your post! I've actually wondered how many of us started in December. Not too many post show up under the December forum. It will be good to have someone right where I am to communicate with. I'm exactly where you are And I don't even feel bad about it, that's what is the most exciting I really want to get the most out of the program. I did watch the session 5 coaching dvd lastnight but decided to listen to the session 3 audio this morning and actually went back to the workbook this morning as well. I too want to validate my negative feelings, but I want to learn how to see the good in everything We can do this....I hope to work on it daily. I already have my little spiral notebook laying on my desk.
Do you ever PM. Feel free to post to me anytime about our progress with session 3! Here's to us making it through no matter how long it takes

Its difficult keeping track of all your negative thoughts, as well as overwhelming. Start out keeping track of a few thoughts and countering the thought with a positive /realistic statement. In the beginning its not easy identifying and countering the negative thought. I used to say like they, mention on tape 3, thoughts only thoughts, until I began to feel more comfortable.

Sometimes I still find if I am having a difficult day, from anxiety, negativity or just feeling tired, that its a moment and it will eventually pass. This morning I woke feeling very anxious and nervous over something that had been bothering me from the night before. My negativity started with here we go again, I'll never get over this junk, why me, poor me, type thinking.

Once I began to recognize it as my anxious negative voice, I told myself I'm going to accept the fact that at this moment I am feeling negative, cranky, anxious and weird, and so what. I began to notice a little while later that I was feeling much better. Just giving my self permission to feel whatever I was feeling and being more accepting of my negativity, it passed.

Try to be patient and compassionate to yourself. You will begin to notice the skills are working. Take care and God Bless.

dear Hally, K.Denise C, and bna,

just checking in on you guys to see how you are doing by now... it's been 3 months since these posts and i wondered if the skills were working for you and how far you are now... just wondering and praying... i had to do session 3 lots of times when i was going through the program... buy i persevered and completed April 22... it just gets better every day!!!!! determination to keep on going and not give up is the most vaulable tool ... also, Hally, being honest about the negative is important.... sometimes, though, the negative thoughts are just there to annoy you... let them pass... like a gentle cloud... they don't even mean anything... but are just passing through... it that case, you can just let them go... carry on... you guys rock!
much LOVE,
kj
much LOVE,
kj

Hi, Thanks , that was a really nice post. I like your idea for negative thoughts. Very gentle, and soothing.
I have put my program away for now, but I will take it out again sometime, and do it again.
Take care to all,
Hally

I went threw the program as it was suggested. Each week a new session. When I got threw I knew I was not really threw. I started over, this time taking each session and not worring about completion in a week. I am on session 3. I feel really stuck. I cannot shake negative self talk. I have been trying to write down the thoughts, but for me I am moving around so much and I keep laying down the not pad, and I am in a full blown anxiety with negative thoughts and the note pad is forgotton. Any suggestions on stopping the negative -go - around?

I'starting over too. I have trouble even getting to write down my negative thots , let alone my turnarounds . can't get pin to paper I seem stuck. clair

Yesterday I had the strangest experience. As I got out of my car from a strenuous batch of tasks, I was busy with my usual self-talk and had an automatic lift of thought process. My new work was into play and a positive thought came to me as though a new world were around me. Gentle breeze, leaves from trees, I am safe with the all in all. Today I have listened and fully participated at least once to the relaxation Here is a short you tube link
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...KzIU&feature=related [/IMG]