I have been divorced a long time. Kids are grown. Not happy in my job, but I am searching. I met someone about 7 months ago and we had a fabulous relationship, the best one that I had ever had. Then her sister died and her behaviour became erratic. One day she loved me, the next she wasn't sure. Haven't seen her in several weeks, but as recently as 3 days ago she called me and told me she missed me. I haven't heard a word since. I am very depressed and tired of being alone. Thanksgiving was spent entirely by myself. I didn't grow up in Florida, so I don't have a lot of friends and no family here. I've joined singles clubs and enjoy getting out, but I still come home to an empty house each night, which only makes the depression worse.

I spent Thanksgiving alone this year also, so I know how you are feeling. It's not an easy thing to do sometimes. Any relatives I have left are all in the East except for my sister who is also here in Calif. The people I know where I live all have family to spend holidays with, so it is something I've had to adjust to at this time of year. I agree the evenings can be tough sometimes when you live alone, but my cat keeps me company and we are best friends. Your friend is probably going thru a hard time right now since her sister died. She may be depressed and not even sure how she feels about anything, which would explain her erratic behavior. Maybe you could let her know that you're available to just be with her if she needs someone. ???

Hey man I live in Citrus Springs Florida If you would like to chat or something let me know.

And so the cycle starts; depression and loneliness and all the "wonderful" things that go with them. The wheel spins more and more, sticking us further into the depression and loneliness until it becomes impossible to tell which is making us more sad.
I hear you. My husband died 12 years ago, and until recently, I repeated over and over that he ruined my life when he died. Then, I had a close friend tell me that we shouldn't base our happiness on the presence of another person in our life. Yet knowing that didn't change my feelings one bit. In fact, it made them a little more frustrating.
Until other ways of occupying my mind became obvious to me. Then, I had to battle the wish to stay in the house and close myself off from the rest of the world. That's totally safe, because when you're by yourself, nobody can get in and nobody can hurt you. Until I realized that my problems weren't external, they were all internal and started with me and the way I let depression, anxiety and all the "joys" that go with them rule my life.
Think of other things, start new activities, get creative, make a life for yourself, maybe get a pet or involved in church or other activities that give you something else to think about. Occupy your mind with the good and positive thoughts and you'll never know when you might find another special someone, or when your problems with a current relationship might resolve themselves.