I guess I am not as far along as I thought with my anxiety control. My DIL called my daughter yesterday and said neither she nor my grandson will be here at Easter. That means neither will my son. My son left her last summer and so she does not bring my grandson to see me anymore. My son brings him about once or twice a year. This is part of my anxiety and I know I need to work on trying not to control things that are none of my business. Or, that I can not control.
I guess I just want to see as much of him as I can before I die. They are only 2 hours away from me and they drive that distance frequently to fish or enjoy some other entertainment. Now, don't I sound like a controlling old b****?
You bet I do and you bet I am. That my friends is why I am disappointed in myself today. I had a nasty anxiety attack about 2:30 A.M. and I finally got back to sleep after 6 A.M. and then I got up about 8. My legs are rubbery and I am grumpy. I did not take my Xanax until I had the anxiety under control. I am trying so hard to get off of it. I am going to get busy and work this off but I had to talk to someone and I choose you all. Thanks for listening. Grumpy Granny here. God Bless you all.

Can you go see your grandson at his house? Maybe you guys could meet halfway. If driving is not an option, that is a different story. I can understand how bad you want to see him and spend time with him. I get frustrated with my MIL when she always keeps score on who called who last and I am always the one making the effort for her to see my son. I get tired of the guilt trips because she is retired and I work full time and have other commitments. You may not be like that but she irritates me. She is perfectly healthy and capabale of coming to my house once in a while. However, if she was not able to drive I would try and take my son to see her once a month or so. Does she know how much you want to see him? Hang in there, family is the hardest.

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Does she know how much you want to see him? Hang in there, family is the hardest.

Yes and she thinks I should come there but I am never invited. When they need something, like a truck or something we have, you bet they call. She does have him call me once in awhile but I only have one eye and I hate turnpike driving.
I feel it is easier if they come here. We also have animals to consider and my kids both have professional jobs which sometimes is 7 days a week. I don't want to be a burden, but she only lives a few miles from her father and they go there every holiday. Used to be they came here 3 times a year. Now it is down to one , maybe two. I love them all and do not want to take sides. I pray they will soon make up their minds what they are going to do. Thank you for your comments.

This situation sounds awful. I know mine does not compare in severity, but I am constantly nursing hurt feelings about my lack of relationship with my brother's wife, and my never being able to see a niece and nephew on my hubby's side on the family because of their parents. I'm not only not a priority for them, I'm not even on their radar! I try so hard not to let it bother me, but we only have so much time to be together on this earth, and no one can count on tomorrow. I try to make plans, and sometimes do with these folks, but they always back out. It is not only hurtful, but makes me feel that I must be lacking in some area. While my anxiety levels drop and I grow this new "back bone", it is a bit easier to deal with, but some things are always going to be a source of pain. It is sad, and I cannot imagine the hurt when it involves your closest relatives. You aren't a Grumpy Granny. You're a decent, kind person who just wants to spend time with the people you love. It really isn't right that it should be so difficult.