OK guy/gals I am going to lose weight and wanted to know if anyone else needs to.
I gained 43 lbs since march 2002 aftering learning about my sons losing vision from a rare eye disease.
I have always been thin most of my life until about 1999 i started gaining weight when i learned i had fibromyalgia and took meds for it. I gained 65 lbs lost it all in the year 2001 and then gained 43 lbs back.
I know most of you seem to lose weight with panic and i did too until i got help for it in 1998.
I tend to turn to food when i am depressed.
I am ready to lose weight I already lost 2 lbs since yesterday. I think i will record inches.
Being overweight makes me feel bad about myself. It is so unhealthy too. Most of my weight is in my midsection. This is not good on my heart, or the rest of my body. Its like carrying around a 25 bag of dogfood and another 18 lb bag of bird seed around all the time.
I always was thin and my husband hates it that i gained weight. (but i dont care about what he says im doing this for me) People are the same inside even if they gain weight , so he can kiss my grits.
Anyway I heard women have a 21 percent chance of getting breast cancer if they are overweight. I am also 40 and need to be careful about my health.
I am ready to do something about this. And why do i write on here? Cause i want to be accountable for it. And i wanted to know if others wanted to do it with me.
What does this have to do with anxiety and depression? Alot......one He$#$ of alot. For me I feel ashamed of myself and not wanting to go anywhere. Not to mention the depression i get when i cant where anything that matches. My face and neck get big and i dont want to wear jewlrey. My husband is mean about it and then i dont want to be intimate with him cause i feel ugly. (thats his problem tho if he is mean,,,grrrr)
I started yesterday and what i am going to do is only moderate food amounts and try to be more active (which is very hard for me). I have fibromyalgia and i hurt alot so i have to start slow.
I am also so embarassed to even walk around my neighborhood, its like i go from fat to nice and i think they wonder where the babies are lol....
It hinders me. So i am going to have this goal of 43 lbs to lose and maybe even more.
I will post on here if you guys dont mind. There has to be someone else out there that is overcome with depression and wants to lose weight like me.
If this is not the appropriate forum to do this on then please let me know. But i am ready to lose it now.
wish me luck and join in with me.
Also for measuring, any of you health nuts know where to measure? i was going to do chest, upper arm, waist, thigh and hips. My legs stay skinny when i am overweight its weird.
Ok im done rambling.
ps. My husband is a health buff He is 43 years old and has a body that looks better then an 18 year old he does 700 sit ups a day plus weights and cardivascular excercise and looks fantastic. He has always taught my sons the importance of health. My sons have both asked me to lose weight cause they are worried about my health. I am doing this for them and for me. Maybe i am bitter but i dont want to do it for my husband. Cause when i lost weight the first time he told me i was skinny and flabby once when he was mad at me. So i feel there is no pleasing him.
psps also he wanted to go to marriage counseling but the counselor told me to tell him NOO not unless he was willing to change himself and not try to fix me.
ok girls and guys lets go
all we have to do is cut down on what we already eat and try to move more.
My moving will be from only going to the house to the mailbox maybe down one block and further. (im serious that is how bad of shape i am in and how much i hurt)
I lost 65lbs before so i know i can lose this and so can you!!!!!
Lori

Hi Lorisnewlife,

I love your name. I was sooo happy to see a post like this. This has been one of my BIGGEST problems. I would love some suppot in this area and we can help each other out tremendously with this. Unlike You, I always had a weight problem. As a teen I was about 40-45 pounds over weight. I lost it ALL in my late teen years and gained it ALL back about two years ago. I went through a VERY difficult stressful time and needless to say I am an emotional eater.

I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia at 17, now they think it is because of a bone disorder I have instead of fibromyalgia. Anyway, I'm not going to get into all of that. But, I know exactly how you feel. I went to Walmart the other day with my mother and even though I had no intenion on gettig anything in the store I insisted on pushng a shopping cart to hide myself. That feels terrible. And, although I have never had depression with the axiety I am now starting to feel depressed. When you feel like you don't even have control over how you look it could be very depressing. I m about 30-35 pounds over weight and would love to try to take the bulk of it off by Christas. I would love some new cloths as a Christmas gift from my husband.

I think this is a great idea, and I'm sure some others would be interested too. After all eating right and exercising help with not only weight loss but also anxiety.
Also, I have to tell you that exercise is the BEST thing for fibromyalgia. I understand your in pain. As I got thiner and healthier, I began exrcising more and more actually to the point where I was running at one time ( back in the day) anyway, the pain does begin to subside. I'm not saying start off runing. Take it slowly, the Richard Simmons tapes are great and uplifting.

Just to get started...I'd like to throw some ideas out there...

How bout,,,#1.We make it routine that we post for specifically this topic every day as a weight loss support group, checking in on emotions and what we ate.

#2 Try to get in at least 30 minutes of some type of physical activity daily?

#3 Have a specific weigh in and post day?

#4 We can share low fat recipes ( i have some really good crock pot ons)

#5 Support, Support, Support

#6 We can set a goal and reward date for the process?

If I think of more later, I'll post it.

Let me now what you think?

I'm sure we can do this!!!!!!!!!

Have a great night

Hi Lori (again. I posted to you under the Oct 18 message, too.) I'm proud of you for wanting to lose weight and get in shape!

Do you mind if I offer a couple suggestions?

I know having a "goal weight" is very important and gives you something to work toward, but I think it's even more important to focus on feeling good and comfortable with your size, not necessarily what the scale reads. That way, you don't have to beat yourself up if the scale goes up and down.

I know with your fibromyalgia it's hard to exercise because of the pain and exertion--have you tried something like Yoga or Tai Chi? They're not strenuous (well, besides stretching and some of the positions, but you can go as lightly as is comfortable for you) and relieve muscle tension. They also tone, and leave your body feeling limber! I hate working out, running, anything that causes too much sweating/stress, etc, so my favorite forms of exercise are doing simple things like walking and yoga. Plus, they're really healthy for the mind!

Have you read Dr. Phil's book or been watching his "Weight Loss Challenge"? I think some of his pointers are related to what the Midwest program teaches, so you might be able to use that as a guideline too.

Remember, it's a lifestyle change, not just a diet, and you've already been incorporating healthy behaviors into your daily routine. The rest of the steps should follow with all the hard inner and outer work you've been doing!

Try not to overwhelm yourself with too many changes at once though. Keep us posted & good luck!

Hi jingles lol thank you i like my new name too
Thank you for sharing your story. I think you have great ideas too. thank you for telling me about your ideas about fibromyalgia too.
I would have to start out slower then you with exercise cause as of right now i dont even exercise one minute a day. But you could do 30 mins and i could start with 3 LOL.
I think you have great ideas. I think it would be good to post like once a week or something about losses or inches whatever people want to do.
I was skinny when i met my husband only 108, and then stayed like 120 most of the time we were married until i had the second baby then i stayed around 140-145 then on top of that i gained the weight. So.....i could lose more then 43 lbs maybe even 63 but i want to just have that goal for now. .... Im not sure how to do it all i know is I want someone to do it with me LOL
thanks jingles
Lori
Hi starting over thank you for your advice I appreciate it alot. thank you for your support also. Yes i saw some of dr phils examples.
Your right i need to take it slow and not try to do too much all at once.
Hey starting over tomorrow it looks like a major cat fight on our show LOL
take care , Lori

Ok,
Anyone that wants to join in join in at anytime.
Lets tell how much we lost in inches and weight on Mondays. Or if you just want to do weight that is fine.
Make a goal of how much you want to lose and when. I lost 40 lbs in a 5 month period in 2001 but i starved and it wasnt healthy for me, i ate what i wanted but minimal. So this time i am going to give myself more time, and try to do it healthier.
Do whatever works for you, whatever amount of exercise you want, whatever kind of diet you want. This is your plan.
You can, however give suggestions ect.
Jingles wants to lose her weight a little faster then me by xmas . YOU Go Girlfriend!! lol

I feel this is really going to change for me the way i feel about myself (even though i need to accept myself however much I weigh). Im tired of being depressed and embarassed of myself.

Ok i will start, YOU DONT HAVE TO GIVE US YOUR WEIGHT.
I will though.

Ok I am 188 lbs right now. And my goal for now is to lose 43 lbs and be 145 by the time my kids get out of school, May 28th. That is 7 months to lose it. This is my first goal and then if i want to lose more or just tone up after that i will.
I am going to measure my chest, upper arms, waist, hips, thighs, and calves.Lets check in every monday with weight loss and loss in inches.
Here is my web page, it is a pic of my husband and i when i was 30, and 130 lbs, next are my sons sean and shane this year. next is a picture of me and my family two months before we found out about the boys eyes. I was 150 there and 38.
Ok lets do it!
Lori
http://hometown.aol.com/saralvsbrds/

Hi Lori,

I'll get started oday too!

My Current Weight: 150 pounds
My Goal Weight: 115-120 Pounds
My Goal Date: January 1 st, 2004
Weigh In Days: Monday

My expectations of myself: To exercise at least 4 times a ek, doing something I enjoy )

To limit alcohol!!! ( Definetly does not help with weight loss)

And to limit my Calorie intake to 1100 calories a day.

I'm only 5 foot even, so I pretty much ave to eat like a child, LOL.

Well, I look forward to this new challenge. I'm glad were taking steps to make us feel better for US!!!

By the way, you definetly do not look like you are 188 pounds in the bottom picture!!! I think you are being a little hard on yourself.

Take care.

i was only 150 on the bottom picture i wont put any 188 lb pictures of me on there LOL i gained all that weight in a year and 4 months stress eating about my sons.
You are a little thing
If anyone else would like to join in at any time please do even if it is weeks later
Lori

Hi Lori,

Well regardless...I think you look great. You have beautiful hair. Even though I'm sure you're not feeling very attractive right now because of the extra weight....don't forget to play up ad remember you're good qualities. With the stress you've been under...anyone in you're place would need a coping mechanism. Lots of people turn to drugs and alcohol. You are dealing with things wonderfully.

I look forward to checking in with you on mondays. Take care and stay positive.

jingle if noone else wants to do this with us then maybe you and i should just do it together on emails, i posted this on friday then deleted it cause it seemed noone responded then reposted saturday, cause if its just me and you then maybe we should just do it together via email or something. what do you think?
Lori

Sounds good to me...you can e-mail me at holly0427@2omcast.net.

Talk to you soon

thank you for the compliments jingles i didnt see your post before i posted before those were such nice things you wrote, thanks for your email address lori

I need to lose weight. I am about 5'7" or 5'8", and I weigh 240, 245.
I'm have a pretty large frame, so I actually look fit at about 210. I've been trying to lose weight since my graduating year!!
I know what I have to do....just haven't got around to it yet...lol
I was an athelete in high school.....I know I need to start an exercise program, and cut back on the calories.
A couple months ago, I started counting calories...believe it or not, 300 per day, and I lost about 15 pounds. Then I woke up one day and decided to eat everything in sight, and I gained it all back, maybe more.
So I'm just waiting for the motivation to kick in, and I'll start working out and eating better.
This morning I ate vegetables and baked beans. What a combo.
My kids laugh at the things I eat.

Add another zero to my caloric intake....3000 per day.
So if I'm not counting, I must be eating like 12,000 per day.

Hi Thief,

OMG...I was amazed when you wrote 300, I was like, Oh No he's starving himself. If you want to join in we'd be happy to have you. I wish you luck. By the way...a baked potatoe and veggies is actually a very healthy meal and a good start for the day. I , myself, don't like breakfast food so I eat kind of strange things in the morning too. For instance, TUNA, LOL.

Take Care

Want to know how much my embarassment over my weight affects my depression and life? My friend died and i dont have anything to wear because i have gained so much weight. When i first gained weight a few years ago i refused to go to my 20 year class reunion cause i was only 120 lbs tan ect for my 10 year one. I will not let my weight stop me from going to my friends funeral. I am 68 lbs heavier now then when those friends of mine saw me 10 years ago and i feel ashamed and depressed about it. I am not going to let it stop me from going to her memorial service. I loved kris a ton.
I have to go to get a new pair of dress pants because o dont have any that big. I am going to lose this weight and keep it off once and for all. No i doubt i will ever be 120 again and i dont know if i want to. 145 is a nice weight for a 40 year old that is 5 foot 6 if i want to lose more later i will.
For now i will swallow my pride and Im even afraid her parents wont recognize me 68 lbs bigger makes a person look alot diff.
My goal is still 145 and i need to lose 43. i havent lost any yet.
Joe your funny lol beans and veggies for breakfast? hehe lol
if you want to do this with us go for it lol so far i danced yesterday (before i heard the news about my friend) to a commerical for one minute that had music on it, that was my exercise, now maybe today i will dance two minutes LOL as for the cutting down on food i didnt do good so far, i have a habit of running to the cubboard to get rid of feelings.
Joe i think i might eat that many calories a day too LOL
anyway thought id share some thoughts with you all on here
have a good day
lori