I just pulled up to get my inspection sticker at the oil change place and I assumed I was next in line as there were NO CARS IN FRONT OF ME. Then a worker pulled a car around and parked in front of me after I had been waiting for about 10 minutes, got out, and started walking back to the garage without saying a word. So I calmly said out the window, "hey, what's the deal with that?" He just said, "car was here first." In hindsight I should have at least asked if thre were any other cars ahead of me but I didn't. I got pissed off and took off. I screached my tires and knocked over one of those metal poles stuck in a bucket of cement that are used to separate lanes. I'm glad that happened by the way...I hope that jerk has to go pick it up.

Now I realize sometimes these places will do an oil change on a car and then drive the car back around and do the inspection but either they put the car at the back of the new line or they hold the place and have someone tell people waiting that there are cars ahead of them.

I'm currently working on seesion 4 of this program and I realize the world isn't fair but what am I supposed to do...just sit there and let them drive cars ahead of me without saying anything?

I'll let this go...I'm not going to dwell on it. I wish I at least asked them about other cars and then calmly told them that I was going to go somewhere else and they really should let people know that other cars are ahead of customers.

So anyway...it's obvious I have some anger issues. I swear this program is making me more unstable.

SRH,
I think the line is somewhere between, expectations and assertiveness. Your right it was unfair what happened to you. And you did get angry. But, i think you will see as you go through the program, that you can be assertive without being aggressive or angry, and you will feel much better.... Take care Nelly

That's where I stuggle too - I don't want to get walked on so sometimes I get mad at things that I perceive as people taking advantage of me or treating me unfairly - then other times I go the other extreme and let people take advantage of me. so I want to find the balance - and from what I'm assuming is once your self esteem raises and you feel good about YOU, you will be able to tell the difference - am I right?

well my thing is ..I cant figure out how to stand up for myself, without being straight forward and blundt...

Sometimes I take a little time to compose what I'm going to say, with out anger. At least it gets a discussion going with a good outlet for myself and others. Sometimes it backfires, but I've at least gotten my concern out there with other peoples feelings in tack. After listening to them I sometimes understand that my concern was valid to them also, if not they at least know how I feel. Good Luck, I'm still working on expectations of myself and others.

Hi all I agree with all you are saying. Relate to all of it as well.
I usually am kind and patient and all the things and then blow like a volcano cause I've been dealing with unfairness all day!

I know life is unfair....heck it's all around me. I don't expect anything other than what I give and get for myself. Hard life you bet...and it never seems to get easier, lighter, does anyone owe me? NOPE cause I've gotten where I am by MYSELF and did stuff when they said I "couldn't" "shouldnt" "wouldnt"

Having a hard time with session 4 for sure...

Yes I too am like a volcano when it come to having patience. But I constantly feel that people are doing things to me on purpose. So I react in a nasty way or tone. I still feel I'm back in grade school when I was told what to do I'd sulk back to my seat and dream of the day when I'd get back at THEM! So I guess I walk around with a chip on my shoulder daring others to knock it off. I can see that I'm causing these anxious moments to come about. And yet I feel I have no control over them when they happen. Which is totally wrong, as the program has pointed out to me again and again. I just need to GROW UP! And stop this behavior. But when your constantly running on high energy thinking that the next person is going to push me over the edge...WELL I react real baddly. Which could be why I don't want anyone around me to point these traits off to me. But I act like a boob done the less!

You know I don't where to begin to tell you about my day. But so much went right it almost seems like a dream enstead of a nightmare. Well I completed work on a Tasty Toon, sold 12 of my Table Toons and am on consignment with some Kachina Masks I'm selling at an art agency in town. Man, I felt so good today that all I remember was going over the dialogue on tape 3 Self Talk A Key To A Heathly Self Esteem. And as these things came about I had that rush of Incredibleness in my being as I thought this was only the beginning. God, I sure hope so! Cause, it's been alooong time since I felt this good, too. I even had a hard time trying to come up with any negative thoughts to write this day in my notebook. And I even bit into a steak dinner that didn't chew and taste like rawhide that I cooked at home. Talk about a miracle!