I was wondering if anyone out there did'nt get this lesson when they 1st heard it. I never thought I was someone who had unrealistic expectations...I was the "laid back kid"..but it hit me later like BOOM. Anyone have this same experience?

Me too, I always thought my expectation of others were fair. I expect them to give me as much as I give, because I give a lot. Well with this lesson I realised that you can't expect that much from others. And this is so tru for me, I would get sooo depressed if the other person didn't act/say/ give me what I expected. But I['m learnign so much in this chapter This program ROCKS!!!!!

i'm stuck here!! I think I have to take two weeks for this session too...i'm just not getting it...maybe I will just take two for every lesson!@

Actually I was supposed to start lesson 5 tonight and I haven't finished lesson 4. So iguess I will do 1 1/2 weeks to 2 weeks on this lesson..... OMG.... lol

hehe.....you see what youre saying

thats why they say do each lesson one at a time even if you dont get it at 1st....its to teach you to move on and in a way get used to change....changing lessons. And also...not to make yourself feel like you have to get it down the 1st time

I think I am getting it now!!! I am ready to move to lesson 5!! I do put alot of expectations on everything...just like this lesson...I am afraid to move forward...because I "expect" to understand it completely before I do!! I will start lesson 5 on Sunday!!!

Does misreading the name as 'How to Get Less and Expect More' for the first month, answer your question?

I can totally relate...I'm going through the program again for the 2nd time and there are some many things I didn't even hear/understand the first time...It just takes time.

I'm having a little trouble with this lesson two because over the years I've become such a negative thinker that I tend to expect the worst. I'd been told that was a key of my depression that I needed to think more optimistically.

After thinking about it some more, I realized that although I often think the worse, at the same time I'm fantasizing about the best! It's like I'm caught in a trap.

Another thing that I realized was that I had given up on doing the obsessive things to try to get the perfection that was discussed on the tape. I just got tired of it and quit, but I still wanted it so I'd ruminate on it and beat myself up.

I've come to the conclusion that I need to adjust my expectations to a more nuetral level without continuing to entertain fantastic or magical expectations. If I have more realistic, not too negative or positive, expectations I think a lot of my anger towards myself and others will dissipate as will the chronic depression related to never reaching these dreamlike scenarios. At the same time, I'll prevent a self-fulfilling prophecy with my worst possible outcome thinking.