Im am so dissapointed today, and i knew down in my heart not to have high expectations about anything but i had big plans for my birthday (which is tomorrow) We were going to go play tequila bingo, go to a comedy club and then go dancing. I was so looking forward to this. My whole family was supposed to go we have had this planned for weeks. Now today everyone is coming up with excuses not to go, (and we dont have any friends) So now we are going out al by ourselfs and im hurt. Im so sad and now im afraid im going to hold a grudge on all of them.
Maybe im just feeling sorry for my self but you know it sucks not having friends, and not having people you can count on, i really needed this night out. Sorry everyone just really needed to vent....

Jennifer

Dear Cara Bella,

Having no friends can be very upsetting... I've been there, trust me. That, I believe, was the reason that I started to have anxiety and depression in the first place. However, like everything else with this disorder, it all goes in a viscious cycle. You have anxiety because you are lonely, and you are lonely because you have anxiety, (and you're probably afraid to meet new people - i.e., what will they think of me, will they accept me for who I am, what if I say/do this, and they don't think it smart/good/funny, etc, etc, etc).
The key is to break this cycle, which is definitely the hardest thing ever. But, as lesson 2 teaches you, you have to go out and do the things that you are afraid to do - even be outgoing (i know it's really, really hard, much easier said than done), call up some old acquaintances, or people you always liked, and ask if they want to meet up with you. I'm sure you'll find people who will want to be there with you, and then, for you!
(Even if some say they're busy, others will definitely say that they would like to meet with you - the key is not to give up, and not to mind read - if they say no, they don't wanna be with me - they're probably REALLY, JUST busy). Of course, making friends is a long and difficult process, and if you have one true friend, who will be there for you always, you are very lucky!
It is important that you try, though!
It will be anxiety producing, it probably will give you body symptoms, but hey - that can't hurt you! And think of it as excitement, a wonderful journey, with a great and fun outcome! And trust me, once you go out, and get someone to hang out with, you will feel much better in terms of your anxiety, and in terms of life as a whole....
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!!!!
~Eugene

Cara Bella,
Just enjoy the day and thank God that you were born and enjoy the people who you are with...no matter what. I still don't have any friends here. I spent my bday with my parents and a neighbor. We didn't do anything exciting, I had to work...I guess that I didn't expect to much since I don't have any friends here. I'm sorry that everyone is backing out on you, but just enjoy that you are here and enjoy your family and friends who are there for you. It could be worse! Try and make the best of a "bad" situation...that's what I did...but not everyone is like me. I just thought I would try and help.
Take care and have a wonderful birthday!
Cindy

I want love that is freely given: There's a difference between asking and demanding.

Thanks everyone for your replies. I ended up having a great time. Thanks

Jennifer