Hi,

I have a question that isn't entirely anxiety related but is definitely making me feel anxious and uncomfortable.

It might sound like a silly question but here it is:

Every year when my fiance and I are shopping for gifts he always mentions how he finds it necessary to buy separate gifts (just from him and not from me) for my parents and siblings. I find this really odd since I grew up in a family where if you're a couple you give a gift as a couple, together. I feel horribly uncomfortable about the situation and I can actually feel my stomach knot up just thinking about it.

I've told him how I feel about the situation but he doesn't seem to agree with me. Any thoughts out there as to how we can compromise? More importantly does this not seem a little odd to anyone else?

Yes, I do find that odd!!
We could never afford to buy separate gifts from each of us to everyone, its an unecessary expense.
We just bought ONE gift for each set of parents, and ONE gift for anyone else we bought for and both signed our names to the gift.
If you can afford to do that, i guess it doesnt hurt, but what is HIS point?? Nelly

I know this post was initiated two weeks ago, but I don't think it is that odd. Families do things differently and it is hard for us not to feel that they way our family did things was the "right" way, and other ways are "wrong". I think it is nice that he cares enough about your family that he wants a separate gift from him, maybe to show that he made an effort. It can be obvious with a couples gift that one member of the couple did the thinking, shopping, and wrapping, and the other gets their name on the tag and a free ride so to speak. So maybe he doesn't want to do this. Is it really worth getting sick about? Usually by the time Christmas day is over, it doesn't matter anyway. Hope it went OK.