One thing that I wanted to share here regarding our expectations is that of what we expect from ourselves.

Recently in a therapy session I learned one thing about myself- how insecure I tend to be. When it comes to facing life's myriad circumstances there are times when I have barely been able to muster the courage to face them. Because I did not expect to succeed or expected to fail I would often sabotage myself from the git-go. Like the saying "When the going gets tough- the tough get going" but I would find myself going the opposite direction from the challenge because of what I expected.

The other thing I learned in that same therapy session was that it is o.k. to trust myself- that I have everything I need internally to deal with whatever life might bring me at any present moment. This struck me a little odd because I've spent so much time not trusting myself and expecting failure. But, thinking this over and over to myself I realized that I can choose to let go of the controls a little and take more risks. What's the worst that can happen? What do I expect if I don't take a risk?

We definitely have what we need inside to heal our anxiety and depression. We created it over time with negative beliefs and we have the same power inside of us to change that trend. Trusting ourselves and being patient with our recovery is key and I believe that expecting a little more from ourselves is a healthy thing, as long as we're realistic. Well, that's my two-cents worth- thanks!

P.S. Is the chat room working anymore!?!?

H: well I wrote a really good reply to you however I lost It so I'm starting over again .I ws so proud of what I sayed. O well I will try to say it again .I learned a while back also in therpy we sometimes have what we need to get better we just need a little help remembering. It sometime helps me when I put my two-cents in or when I vent on this fourm. I have good feedback, and support from such helpful members and have been guided back on track also when needed