I'm having a really hard time with lesson 4. I tried to write my should list, but I just blanked. I didn't even feel like I had any shoulds for a couple days and now I"m just not sure what I think. I"ve been on the brink of a panic attack most of the night, and I got so depressed for a couple of hours, it really scared me. I feel like I've fallen back into the hole I was crawling out of. I want to dust myself off and start crawling out again, but at the moment I'm just not sure how.

I know exactly how you feel. Session 4 was tough for me too. Chances are there are some shoulds somewhere. Maybe try to think back to a time when you were feeling particularly anxious and there are probably some shoulds in there somewhere. I also go a few days without "should" thinking but I know in my life as a whole I have had plenty! I hope this makes sense. Maybe try to think of it that way. Take care!!!

jlilangel

You are on session four, what an accomplishment you are an inspiration to me.

My main "shoulds" are at other people in my life. When I really started listening to my inner mind talk I mean really the floodgates opened up and I noticed that my shoulds were everywhere. Not only did I should myself but also my friends, family and just about everyone I came in contact with. This person should act like this or I should of said that. My children should be like this. This causes soo much anxiety. I found that just by noticing it is a relief and helps. Try to realy pay attention to yourself