Hey everyone! it's been awhile. Life has been crazy busy....I've been out of my comfort zone a lot. Tonight I'm giving a speech so pray for me.......Anyways, my husband is in Iraq and he's coming home soon to visit. Well, because he's so busy we haven't talked much. The only way I heard he was alive this week is because he called his Dad (since he had been in the hospital). I know my husband is busy and doesn't have access to much communication.......but I still feel like I'm being stood up......and I wonder how we're gonna just click back together when he gets home when we've barely talked. I know I shouldn't expect him to call or email much. I just can't seem to shake these hurt feelings. I keep telling myself he's just busy....I think that only makes it worse though.......any suggestions?
blessings, Amber D

I got a few views but no advice. Doesn't anyone have any suggestions?

hi dove, men make bond in the service.women too.he has done and seen things that he will never experience again. mean time you are home alone taking care of baby. you have had more time to miss him than he had to miss you.he still loves you. it will be ok after you tell him how you feel about feeling left out. dana

Doverette,

I was in the Air Force and my contact with my family was extremely limited. It is not because he wants it that way, that is just the way it is. Communications are not set up and available everywhere. Plus there may have been instructions for him NOT to contact his immediate family. I also have friends that have gone out and I did not hear from them for a year. This is not unusal for security and safety not only for your husband but you as well. Do not take this personally. When you are out, it is SO very busy. I did not contact my family by letter, phone or email for a month...they also were concerned. I was so busy and there where times we could not use the phones. When the operations were going on in Panama in late 1989, I was not allowed to call anyone. We had many wounded people come onto Lackland Air Force base, I think it was a security concern that phones were off limits for us. I also dated a Navy man, and that was the way it was too...secrecy to the mission at hand. Using communication devices could jepordize them and their mission. I hope this helps to understand. Thank yoo and thank your husband for his selfless service! God Bless you all!

Doverette,

Lesson four is good for you. Don't over anticipate your re-union. Be realistic about what will happen, which, as I am writing, sounds absolutely ridiculous and unrealistic. Maybe there is someone else who can help scale down your expectations. Like, he probably won't ravish you at first sight.