Hello. I just finished working on lesson four in the workbook, and have a question about one of the action assignments. It says to write a plan for problem solving and decided how I will make it happen, problem is I can't think of anything. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas to help me get started? Any help is appreciated. Thanks!

I'm stuck there too, sorry

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Originally posted by Now I Have Hope:
I'm stuck there too, sorry

Thanks anyway!

Hi. Sorry I'm so late in responding; I just read your post. I think this assignment asks you to think about solving your particular problems. For example, one of my "problems" is that I don't get enough exercise. So my goal for the week might be to walk for 20 minutes at least 5 days.

The idea is to start doing something about problems besides worrying about them. Once you have a plan to solve them and take action to solve them, the problems will seem much more manageable.

I agree with Julie about looking at solving problems instead of worrying about them. I started out with writing my list of "shoulds". Next, I eliminated unrealistic shoulds and shoulds that were not MY goals. Then I looked at the remaining "shoulds" and changed them to realistic goals. So, "I should be more productive at work" (which is ridiculously broad and unrealistic by itself) changed into what I really wanted to accomplish. My actual goal was to have a course I was teaching ready to go. I set tasks and deadlines to meet the goal so I wouldn't get overwhelmed. I realized I didn't need to have 100% of the 15 week course done before school started and adjusted my deadlines appropriately. In the end, I felt productive because I was able to meet the goals I had set and I was able to have done what I needed to have done by the time classes started.

Thank you Julie and Rica for your responses. Now I understand, and have some ideas for how to make my "plan". Thanks again.

I know that one of my particular problem is that I'm very anti-social and don't like to talk to people, so, I make it a goal that 3 or 4 times a week I go out and talk to a neighbor. It has always been a dream of mine to be a speaker, a motiviational speaker or a religious teacher. It's been a challenge because I'm hard of hearing and the way I talk causes people to say that my accent is different, like I'm from Sweden or European or something. Hence the anxiety attack come which makes me feel a failure because I can't hear. However, I must admit now that since taking this program has help me realize the I am not a failure. That is a night worth remembering; that I AM NOT A FAILURE!