Hi Everyone,

This Lesson has helped me more than the first 3 combined. I was ready to give up on the whole idea when I listened to this lesson. I have so many shoulds including with the way I'm doing this program. I'm not up to par. I don't do one lesson each week like I should, I'm not listening and relistening and applying it to my life like I feel I should. I just sorta listen when I think about it. This is how I run my whole life. There are a lot of shoulds that I really should do. But then I have unrealistic expectations of myself and not only do I fall short of those but I fall short of just normal everyday stuff. Anybody else here suffer from total apathy and lethargy? I'm sure some must. What gets you moving? Any suggestions on how to do the program better? I don't think it's helping me much and it's because I don't put as much into it as I should prolly. What do yall think? Take care.

Hi,
What got me moving was the pain of the anxiety and all the body symptoms that accompanied it 24/7. I was not living-I was existing. It was hard living like I felt. I guess the pain was great enough to show me how much I needed to change. And when I get lazy, which I do, I just remind myself what it was all like and that helps to keep me motivated. I'm not perfect and I sure have a long way to go still, but this is so much better than the alternative.

When you get tired of living with anxiety you'll feel like doing something about it. There is no magic pill to help. Its just you, the program, and how much you feel you need to change. Its only for you. No one else. It will help only you and whether you think so or not you are important enough to do this for.

I have no idea if i've helped at all. Just keep listening to the tapes. It sure can't hurt. Maybe you'll come across someone sometime that will really need to know about this program. You will be in a position to help someone out. That could save their life.

Take care, Reena

Hello, LonelyGuy24,

I began to "a-ha" on Lesson 4 as well. I was so impatient on the first 3. I didn't spend a week on a lesson. But I did spend more than a week on Lesson 4.

I tried to remind myself the conclusion I needed to draw from this lesson was not that I had high expectations. That was just stating the obvious. Instead, using other panelists' experiences as a guide, I tried to find out in what ways and under what kind of cirumstances I could have unrelistic expectations. Right now, I rewarded myself just on being able to catch myself having unrealistic expectations. I will wait for the following lessons to take care of the next steps.

It took years for me to get into this mess. And it was reasonable to expect spending a little more than three or four weeks to fix it. That was my motivation when I became dissatisfied or impatient with the progress. And really, the dissatisfaction and impatience were just me trying to find reasons to reture this program.

Lesson 4 helped me to mellow and Relaxation tape gave me the rest I desperately needed. Those two were my foundation in moving forward with the program and in taking back control of my mental well being. I am currently on Lesson 6. I gained much more insight into ME as a person everyday.

Russell posted a topic at "General Comment" - "A Search for Meaning at the Core of Panic Anxiety Depression" was very insightful. You might want to take a look.

Good luck and hang in there, LonelyGuy24,

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