Hi guys.
I need help. I have gone through this program before and have really gotten my expectations about other people under control, however, I can't let go of them for myself.
I am compelled to do everything right. I feel if I don't something bad will happen. My biggest problem is being the perfect Christian.
I always feel like I am not living right or doing things right and I am being punished with this anxiety.
If anyone else has felt this way and has overcome it I would love to hear the skills you used to overcome it.
Thanks
Sherra

Conner,
Thank You for your reply.
I will keep working on my skills.
I know that Christ died for us and that we are not perfect. I just still feel I need to be.
I am thinking that where we are to use our skills in our relationships with others I need to start thinking of myself as an "other" and include myself in these relationships.
Thanks again.
Sherra

Scarl4444-

I try to remember that God made me imperfect for a reason and he must like me this way! Joking aside, this helps me to feel humble and to accept that I'm okay in his eyes. It allows me to forgive myself and others. When I find myself starting into those feelings again, I just remind myself whose work I am judging!

I'm far less perfect than I used to be, but more connected with others and more useful to them now than I was when I was perfect.

In his eyes, you are perfect already.

Thank you both for your replies.
It sure helps to know that I am not alone.
I went back and read some old posts in the spirituality section and was really comforted.
It's wonderful to know that people like you two really care and are willing to help even when you are suffering the same.
I hope I am able to help someone just as you have helped me.
God bless
Sherra

I can totally relate to you all. I'm always trying to be this perfect person and always beating myself up for not being able to do things that other people can do. For example, speaking in front of people, being organized, etc. I have these high expectations and was never satisfy with my achievements. After listening to the 4th tape, it made me feel better. It is nice to be reminded that life is not perfect and that we are not perfect and it's ok. I really have to work on this area because I've been wasting my time trying to make things perfect and really that's not that important. It's really good to know that we are not alone and that we can be helped and healed from this.