Hi...I am a general manager...I worry about every descision I make. I feel like I'm constantly second guessing myself! I know I'm not always right on every issue...I'm aware that I'm human, but how do I stop being so hard on me? I feel like I'm in a constant battle with myself, constantly beating myself up. Worry will wake me up in the middle of the night...so I run tired all the time which constantly creates a bigger problem. How do I turn down the volume on "Shalene you have to be perfect"..."no room for mistakes"...how do I just let it go...not care maybe quite so much?? No one can beat me up "more" then I beat myself up! I'm sick of feeling like I have to be perfect...with all the answers or I'm not good enough! How do I learn to just give "myself" a break?

I can completely relate to this. Its driving me crazy. I mostly get it about work related stuff. Like I'll obsess about something I said and was it thr right thing to say and wonder if people at work are thinking negatively about me. Finally, my head hurts and I have to go to sleep because I am completely out of energy. You are not alone. I guess it would help us if we just start writing it down. I heard that the second guessiong goes away when the anxiety gets better..good luck!

my last job i had the same pressure i was new n thrown rite into it without the proper training. i finally got so fusterated with dealing with the work as well as major health issues i knew it was time to quit. altough at first i thought ive failed i see now that it was me being good to me or i never would have started this program and found new hope!

I've never been a manager at anything but i can relate to the expecting perfection thing. One thing i've found really helpful is to talk to others about mistakes made and see how they respond or ask others in the same position if they've ever made mistakes and see what they have to say. It's amazing how receptive people can be.


Mike