Hi for all of those who don't know my experience well, I bought the program somewhere between 2001 and 2003 and have done it about 2-3 times now. I had gotten alot better after going through it but I never fully dealt with the problem.

I was hanging out with my friend and his friend yestaurday. Well the one guy is really great and likes to help people out...sometimes i think he's a psychologist or something. Neways he made me really think about why i keep on with my negative things such as feeling lethargic, my bad habitual cycles and my lack of self esteem. It all comes down to me not feeling like i deserve anything...like i don't deserve help from others, I don't deserve to have nice things or good jobs. Its definately great to figure out the thoughts right before the dismissal of productive goals or possibilities.

I guess sometimes even after replacing negative thoughts with positive ones for even 1000 hours might not fully solve the problem. Amazing.

Mike

Hey how have u been? Thats a concept I hadnt put into the mix....

hi totalkarma...i'm up and down. But i'm progressive so i'm slowly making it up there. My life is about to change greatly. I'm about to move to another apartment with another person...haven't lived with someone else in a year now. I've got a job awaiting me...mid august and i'm getting some more intresting people entering my life. Some that really wanna help me out, dispite that negative thought. It's definately going to be an intresting time. How are you doin?

Mike

Mike,
Glad to hear things are looking up for you and that you had the opportunity to talk with this person.
Can be surprising when that little light shines through for us.

Something else to think about -
We REPLACE the negatives with positives when we accept and totally BELIEVE the positive. It takes time and STRONG repetition, often out loud and lots of work. As long as it takes.
We have to repeatedly say the positives, until we BELIEVE. Then, it's a lifelong positive thought. Then, it becomes the positive attitude and positive behavior.

We obviously can't just "do" the program, "go through the motions" We work at it until we truly believe in ourselves, like and love ourselves and feel lovable and capable of creating a good life.

I listened to the tapes in the program so many times, I lost count. Also practiced countering the negatives with positives over and over and over again until I could finally say, yep, I'm OK, and lovable and loving and intelligent and capable and creative...and REALLY BELIEVE it.


Keep the roadblocks down and the mind open!

"What we believe determines our attitudes,
affects our feelings,
directs our behavior,
& determines our results."
"That's how the brain works, Change your programming, what you think and thus come to believe, and your results will change." -
from Shad Helmstetter's book-
What To Say When You Talk To Yourself

Awesome book to help session #3 become a reality. When positive self talk is a reality, we KNOW we are able to have those good things in life. We're not ENTITLED to them, but we are able to get out there and make it happen.

God bless and hugs.

Well said cindylou...i think over time i have just got rusty...I need to continue and get to that point that you speak of. I think i know the main thought now that causes me anxiety. I believe the thought of not being worthy does that. I got some work to do. Thanx.

Mike

Your welcome Mike.
I can only write from experience and I know exactly what it feels like to feel unworthy.
Past mistakes and trauma from childhood made me feel like I didn't deserve to be without anxiety, that maybe God was punishing me.
I know better now, thank God.
Took a lot of work on my part to learn to accept myself and build up my self esteem. Somehow, in the past, I even blamed myself for what others had done and just would not allow myself to let go of that.
It's such a relief to let go of the past, forgive, and now move forward.
You'll get there Mike, and I'll be praying that when you do, you'll share it all.
I've read many of your posts in the past several months. You're intelligent, caring, compassionate, and seem determined to move forward.
Allow it to happen, speak kindly to yourself and give yourself a hug each day.
God bless and many hugs to you.

awe aren't you cute...i'm glad that you enjoy my posts. the letting go part is the hardest. Especially from the childhood trauma...its great that you could do that. I actually thought that i did for the most part, when in confronted the person who had done the bad thing to me...but it looks like i'm wrong. I promise you that when i do move past this then I will use this experience for the benefit of others for sure

Mike
Many Many hugs