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HI Sheri,
I completely understand your point and can relate still.. I felt that way before too!
A big part of recovery is becoming in touch with your life again, becoming excited about what lies ahead.. and as worriers we miss the excitement and good things pass us by because of the constant worry. When I dont worry I enjoy my life and generally (I think) I get the same outcome. When you become your own safe person, yes, you are your own safe person, (and session 3 is the core of this theory) then you do not need to worry because no matter what happens, even worse case scenario you can handle it. Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of reaction. think about this, by worrying all the time you lose the precious momments in life. In life thats all we have, those momments make our life, literally. If you died tomorrow would you be happy with your today? Its a vicious cycle really:
1. the negative thinking creates bad feelings and creates anxiety and depression over time- you are what you think!
2. the thoughts manifest into depression and obessing
3. overtime your body starts to wear down which creates a down mood- the negative thoughts continue to reenforce these feelings and push you down more
4. you lose the lust for life, everything seems impossible (of course! your living in negative thoughts)
5. you cant make decisions, begin beating yourself up and then push yourself farther down, nothing seems good anymore. Your eating and sleeping becomes unstable and creates more bad feelings.
6. The 'should' list starts and the guilt gets worse.. its a vicious cycle..
Once the cycle is broken and you begin to trust yourself and begin to get 'better' again than all of these things follow, you wont feel like you need to worry b.c you are safe and the world is a great place (there isnt much to hide from anymore) I know personally when im doing well I feel like there is a mean person not around me anymore, and its me!
I hope you can make some sense out of my rambling.. this has been very unique to me and I wish you all the best with your recovery and journey to recovery!
Keep in touch!
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Thank you so much for your kind helpful advice. All we have is "Today" I will try and stop thinking about tomorrow. quote: Originally posted by Maeggie:
HI Sheri,
I completely understand your point and can relate still.. I felt that way before too!
A big part of recovery is becoming in touch with your life again, becoming excited about what lies ahead.. and as worriers we miss the excitement and good things pass us by because of the constant worry. When I dont worry I enjoy my life and generally (I think) I get the same outcome. When you become your own safe person, yes, you are your own safe person, (and session 3 is the core of this theory) then you do not need to worry because no matter what happens, even worse case scenario you can handle it. Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of reaction. think about this, by worrying all the time you lose the precious momments in life. In life thats all we have, those momments make our life, literally. If you died tomorrow would you be happy with your today? Its a vicious cycle really:
1. the negative thinking creates bad feelings and creates anxiety and depression over time- you are what you think!
2. the thoughts manifest into depression and obessing
3. overtime your body starts to wear down which creates a down mood- the negative thoughts continue to reenforce these feelings and push you down more
4. you lose the lust for life, everything seems impossible (of course! your living in negative thoughts)
5. you cant make decisions, begin beating yourself up and then push yourself farther down, nothing seems good anymore. Your eating and sleeping becomes unstable and creates more bad feelings.
6. The 'should' list starts and the guilt gets worse.. its a vicious cycle..
Once the cycle is broken and you begin to trust yourself and begin to get 'better' again than all of these things follow, you wont feel like you need to worry b.c you are safe and the world is a great place (there isnt much to hide from anymore) I know personally when im doing well I feel like there is a mean person not around me anymore, and its me!
I hope you can make some sense out of my rambling.. this has been very unique to me and I wish you all the best with your recovery and journey to recovery!
Keep in touch!
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I follow through and try and still make mistakes. Can anyone relate to over reacting with mistakes at work? Its like I was fine at work and when I came to write my negative the feeling grew. I just have issues when I make mistakes. It was math and entering invoices. It was a little challenging because there were lots of figures to take in considerataion. I did the best I could and I did my best. It just bothers me that I did not do it correctly even though it was the first time I entered them.
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I have certainly felt the same way. If I don't think about every possible outcome of a situation, then I won't be prepared for possible bad outcomes. I think we do this for two reasons. 1) We think that be obsessing about the possible bad outcomes we can prepare ourselves for them and possibly change them. We probably have all been taken by surprise by a bad outcome and worriers and overthinkers that we are, we want to be able to change that. 2) If we think about every possible outcome, we won't be upset when the bad outcome happens. At least that's my $0.02.
"You don't have to believe everything you think."
Bumper sticker in my therapist's office
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| Posts: 124 | Location: Park Slope, New York | Registered: November 05, 2007 | |
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I wont write down any negative thoughts....Why I can already acknowledge them and see they are incorrect and immediately challenge that negative thought with a positive thought....its not effortless but rewarding.........I love the title...Fake it till you make it..........I also call that living in Faith........
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