One of my husband's co-workers had a get together at his house this past weekend. I have met a few of my husband's co-workers and their wives a couple of times in the past. I was dreading going and even tried to get out of it, but did go and felt terrible the whole time. Constantly comparing myself to the other wives (of course I came up short in every way), talked very litte, am sure they thought I was either very shy or weird! Ended up in tears on the way home, thinking why can't I be normal like other people? My husband is getting really tired of this!

Did you ever stop to think that you might not have been the only one feeling that way? I am sure there was at least one other lady there who felt left out, or not as good in some way, (that nobody else noticed). I think women, especially those of us with anxiety issues to boot, are so wrapped up in what others think of them that we don't stop to think that others are also too wrapped up in themselves to notice the issues of others. Also, I have found that just because a lady is the wife of my husband's co-worker doesn't mean we will be friends. In fact, this time around, (my husband is captain in the Air Force), that I don't like most of the wives. I have found that his new boss has a very nice wife, but that can become tricky.

Mary