Does anyone else besides me ever struggle with insecurities in relationships, like jealousy ? People tell me I am a beautiful girl, but yet if I am out with a guy and he looks at another girl or compliments her or something, that doesn't go over too well with me.

I was very insecure in my relationships with girlfriends when I was young and it created a lot of emotional pain for me. I've matured some since. For one thing my self image improved when I realy started dating at the age of 24. I dated some very attractive women and the feed back I received built up my self confidence. I was surprised, I expected to be rejected and not have a chance to date such attractive females. It turned out very different.

Your quote:
People tell me I am a beautiful girl

What really matters is what you think. The more of a "catch" you think you are and the more you think of yourself the less problem you will have with jealousy. I think everyone struggles with this to some degree, but I struggled with it more than most. Control can also be an issue. We can't control others thoughts.

Beauty is something we all are attracted to. there's nothing wrong in thinking that someone is attractive. It's simply a recognition of an external attribute of a person. However I made it a point when out on a date to "control" what I paid attention to, i.e. not to stare at a very attractive woman that happened to be in my field of view. I also have developed over time self control of my thoughts. Recognition of beauty and undressing someone are two different things. This is more of a guy thing, I think.

If men find you attractive, I would take that to heart and accept it and believe it. The "world" as defined by television, the movies and much of our society, seeks to make beauty the most important attribute for women to have, I think. I'm now 54 and I don't consider myself "cute" or "good looking" anymore. It was great while it lasted, but good looks don't last forever, unless you're George Hamilton or Cher, ha.

Dating someone only because they are attractive is rather shallow. Hollywood and the media are shallow. A guy worth dating will have a better value system that sees you as a whole person with many other good qualities besides just looks.

Well thank you. That was nice getting a response from a man too. Interesting. You'd told me that what matters is how I see MYSELF. Actually I usually have pretty good self esteem. I have my moments, but my confidence has boosted big-time in the past few years. It used to be pretty low though. Anyhow, it doesn't seem to matter ['' my looks '' ] when there is another attractive female around or in the picture. I know some of this is normal, but it's hard to know if other people would feel the same way too. I think a lot of it is a pride thing too. I mean c'mon nobody wants to ADMIT that they're jealous.