I moved and am now trying to get a job but it's not happening - never before have I had a problem getting a job and I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself but I feel incompetant - I tried to quit smoking and cut down on my coffee to reduce my panic attacks and I gained 10 pounds in a week which is really bad in summer so I went back to smoking and guzzling coffee and I'm sliding backwards- I don't have the energy to do anything including listen to the program - even though I know it will help - then I beat myself up for being a big baby...

Hey. I've been on the program for about 4 weeks now. I still am having a hard time sticking with it. Just tell yourself exactly what you did "I know the program will help". Go at your own pace, as far as smoking and drinkin coffee goes, try getting away from it slowly. Don't make a 180 degree turn and just stop. Pace yourself and try to reduce what you are doing. I know the program is hard to keep up with, but try and make time. If you miss a day don't beat yourself up for it--tell yourself that you are busy and are going through a hard time. Be proud of yourself that you are recognizing what you are doing.

Melly
You are not alone!!!!!!!!!! You are not your job, you are you! I'm a licensed broker/builder and have been struggling terribly w/permanent work. I mean things are bad here, but I just take it a day at a time....things will improve. By the way you mispelled "incompetent".......kidding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hang in there, Ron

I'm three weeks into the program. I still smoke and drink coffe but to tell you the truth that is the least of my worry's right now. I tried to cut out coffee but I ended up getting wicked caffine headaches, so now I'll drink one or two cups but that's it, as far as smoking is concerned, I'm trying to think of how expensive they are, I figure instead of buying ciggeretes I can buy a gallon of milk, bread, and maybe even a bunch of bannanas for that price! little by little, don't sweat the small stuff!!!!!
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hey Melly,
Dont be so hard on yourself, your gonna make it, it takes time, rememeber you didnt get this way over night and your not gonna get out over night, so just be patient all will work out, strive to listen to your tapes, even if thats all you do is just listen and let the message sink into your heart and mind, your a good person with lots of potential, you need to remember that ok. Dont be so hard on yourself about smoking or drinking coffee, do what i did, i went from real coffee-to half and half-to decaf, this made it easier on me and I didnt know the difference, and smoking, well yesterday was my first day without a smoke, do i think that I could light up today, I could, will it be a disaster if I do, NO ! because I know that someday i will quit, but FIRST THINGS FIRST, I dont want to put my body into tilt mode by stopping everything all at once. GRADUAL and STEADY this is what will keep the good things in my life, kinda like losing weight, you lose to fast and there is a greater chance of gaining it back plus more, you lose it slow and your body gets used to the gradual changes and keeps it off.
You keep your chin up Melly, your doing great and your gonna make it. We all are gonna make it.
God bless you
Kimberly