i am on week 3 now, physical pains are almost all gone, i feel better but somewhat anxiouw, but this is normal during this program as i face all my stress, anxiety and depression right? anyway so my story is i think stress started it and anxiety and panic set in then maybe a little depression sprinkled on top, but i am beating it slowly. here is my questions i have been married for almost 6 years and have a 15 month old son who is my joy and life. my wife and i bought a home to remodel right before we had our son, so stress there right, not to mention our new business had been open for just over a year, she runs it, and my job is somewhat stressful but not bad i thought. after the birth of our son my wife has not been quite the same as she was, she seems more quick tempered, now we argued before but no more then the average couple i think, and she was raised to yell instead of talk so i shut down and ignore her which leads to me being angry and just dealing with it, i refuse to yell in front of my son so i pick him up and leave the room. now she is a good person or was before, she has loads of stress on her and does not understand why i cant handle mine, i dont mean to sound like shes aweful i dont really think she is, and im sure im not the easiest to live with, but i consider myself level headed and a loving and giving person, maybe to my fault. she is going to her doctor soon to get checked out because she has not been regular with her monthly cycles since the baby was born, i hope its hormonal and she can be like she was. anyhow ever since the baby got here and my wife has been on me and the remodeling of our home, i have had thought, i dont have scary ones just different ones like if i left her i could do this or that and they have somewhat been my focus. i told myself i would wait until i finish the program and she sees her doctor to make any decisions about leaving her, i just hate to do that to my son. but my family and even her own mother has noticed how she treats me. so i think this is some of the things that has put me having to use the program, i have some negative thoughts i have not wrote them down but i do catch them and correct myself, this morning i woke up and before i did anything i gave myself 3 or 4 minutes of positive reinforcment it seems to have helped.
so what is your opinons on what could help my life and me with the program.

Rocky
First of all it sounds like you have a right to feel some anxiety right now. You might continue to feel anxious as you continue the program which I think is normal. You also mentioned some stressors in your life but I think the program will help you find ways to deal appropriately with the anxiety that comes with life (this is what the program has done for me).
I am a mother as well and can sympathize with your wife. Having a baby is life altering to say the least and she might very well have hormone "issues" but it sounds to me that she is not handling her stress too well either. Perhaps you could talk to her about doing the program with you. The sections on anger, and stress management could really help her as well. Before I did this program and realized what a negative thinker I WAS I would be such a victim in my head. My husband (who is a dream come true) would annoy me so much and I would be so mean to him for no reason. I remember standing in front of the kitchen sink washing dishes thinking something like, "poor me no one cares about what I have to do all day and yada yada things like that" then I would give all kinds of attitude towards my husband cause he did or didn't do something the way I thought it should be done. Now however I stand behind that sink and thank God I have a husband to wash dishes for. My point is its really alot about attitude and I think anyone can benefit from this program whether they suffer from anxiety/derpression or not. It's great for just life skills. So to answer your questions I think this program will help you, particularly the part regarding assertiveness. Good Luck

Hi Rocky!
True, having a baby is a big change in a woman's life. I hope it is hormonal-atleast there will be a medical reason for it. You have a lot of stressors in your life right now. Take a deep breath and relax. Rome wasn't built in a day. I also find that I snap at those I love the most. I agree with you about moving your son to another room if she is yelling your son doesn't need that and neither do you. I might be snappy or sarcastic at times but I always try to control my tongue. Sometimes people lash out in anger and once they have said those hurtful things there is no taking it back. I had that with my first husband. I wish you all of the best with this. It would be great if she would join you in going through the program. I will be praying for the best outcome for all 3 of you. Hang in there.

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