hi!
This goes out to all veterans.I need help to make it through the program. I first heard about the program on radio ad ; I carefully listened to the ad and without wasting anytime I bought the program that was in December 06; however, have never managed to go past lesson 5. So anyone who is willing to give me some advice on how I stay on track in order to accomplish my mission of helping myself i'll really appreciate it. My story is a little complicated but I do thank God for seeing me through my troubles all along.

It depends on how much you want to get better. If you want to get better so bad, you will stick to the program, and keep trying. I know I have problems with committing to things like this, because I get caught up with schoolwork and such, but you have to really want it.

First, make a committment to yourself. You will do the work and listen to each tape at such and such a time everyday. (It's one week per each tape.)

Secondly, you could hire a coach. I know it's pricey but that is also an option.

Thirdly, you could find someone in your area that you must answer to in regard to your progress. ie: A close friend or relative that you are comfortable with.

But most of all it's that committment you make to yourself to do the work because you are so sick and tired of the disorder and lack of peace.

Please commit to the program. You're worth it.

When I got off track about mid way thru the program I just started telling myself that I didn't want to go back to the way I had been. I told myself how much I wanted to feel better and that I had just spent $500.00 so I will darn well use it.lol

For me....I figure I've been anxious and depressed now for 6 months...and have wasted all that time chasing my tail. I walk every day and every other day I listen to the cd. It's about an hour, but that is my time and while walking...why not listen. Then before I sleep (or not...haha), I write my thoughts down, sometimes they are just a couple of lines, other times, I'm writing pages on my thoughts...but it's good to get them out of my head one way or another. Also, if I feel like goofing off in work for a bit, I'll do some of the workbook, otherwise, I'll do that in bed before sleep. I work and have two kids and I cart them around everywhere, so I don't have a whole lot of time. Carving out time to walk everyday is challenging...but I'm really want to get through this and I'm convinced this will work for me. So good luck and and if you really want to do the program, you'll find the time somewhere in your day/week to do it.

Thanks for all the suggestions! I loved them!
It is good to know that I can count on you guys for support.
I will be glad to help, too, when you need me.

Love and Light,

Mimi

this is my first week on the program. I am having trouble . I am listening to the week one tape while I walk but have a hard time doing the work book. I dont like to write my feelings down because somebody might find them.

Ask yourself who would fine them and why does it matter.
You own no one anything if they read something personal.
Maybe you're afraid of yourself.
Putting things on paper is a great relief and reading what you wrote can really take the mystery out of how you feel.
It may just be another excuse for stalling. Be brave and move forward. You deserve it and you owe it to yourself to do whatever it takes to be a better you.
You can always lock it up

What i have been doing is I went through the entire program as an overview.

I watched all the videos, then I listened to all of the cd's, then i read through all the books.

Now I am starting over and doing it the right way as they suggest.

I found by quickly going through the entire program, I got the jist of what they were trying to accomplish and now I am sold enough on the entire program to actually spend the time to go through it properly.

I am certainly not saying this method is for everyone, but so far so good for me.

Hi Tierate1. I too have trouble committing to things like this, but I did make it through the entire program. My approach was to write out a schedule and then just do it. I also had to let go of the idea that I had to do it perfectly. Taking that pressure off myself helped a LOT. I wasn't being graded or evaluated by anyone else; this was for me, by me. Keep trying. And give yourself praise and credit for each step you complete. Just take it one step at a time and keep moving forward. I heard a saying once; If you're too tired to step in the right direction, at least face that direction and fall forward!

Muddy: I can relate to your fear of having your personal thoughts read, because it actually happened to me once. What I decided to do was complete the lesson as best I could, and then rip it up afterwards. Why? I find the writing process really helps me clarify my thoughts and I usually end up with more perspective (reality-based perspective, that is). So I do feel it's important for me to do it. However, I also very rarely go back and read anything I write, so I don't feel a need to keep it. If I need to work on a particular problem or behavior again (and I usually do need to at some point), I just do some more writing and then rip it up again. It would be better to do that than to skip the writing altogether.

I don't have much advice--just similar concerns . . .I can do the writing (I'm an English teacher), but I can't listen to the tapes more than once or seem to fit the relaxation stuff in. . .help?

Hi Teacher27,
Could you elaborate a bit on why you can't listen to the lessons more than once? Is it a time issue? Or do you dislike the repitition? I have a half hour commute to work and used that time to listen to the lessons. But some of them were harder to listen to than others. I figured, well, I want to get better, so I'm going to do it even if I don't do it "perfectly".

As for the relaxation CD, I found it hard to fit that in too, since I work full time. I ended up listening to it in bed just before falling asleep. Bonus was a really good night's sleep! Now I can sometimes relax just by hearing in my head "You and I are about to take a wonderful journey together..." Just thinking those first few lines activates the pathway to relaxation formed by listening to the tape and doing the exercises along with it.

Best wishes in your continued efforts.

Well, I think I may have spoken too soon. The first two tapes were review for me, so I felt I had a really good grasp of the material after a single listening. However, after listening to (and being a bit overwhelmed by!) session 3, I'm thinking I will be able to listen to them at least twice. . .the third time through might be a bit boring. I listen to the tapes when I clean, but I might try it in the car, too (my commute's only about fifteen minutes, but that's one full listen a week right there).

The relaxation tape . . .my schedule is just so full! I know it sounds ridiculous to not be able to take fifteen minutes out, but it's hard. I'm worried that when school starts again (I'm a teacher), my schedule will go back to the 60-70 hour work weeks and I won't be able to do it.

Maybe I should just take it day by day.

Teacher27,

I'm glad you're feeling a bit more positive. Maybe instead of focusing on how hard it will be when school starts back up, you could just focus on what you can do now. You've got a few months until then, and this program has excellent tools you need to improve your life. You could make some real progress in the time you have available now. And with your schedule, it sounds like you'll have ample opportunity to put into practice what you learn once classes resume. Hopefully you will soon see what a difference this program can make in your life and you will make time for the relaxation part of it too. It's about priorities. Taking time for yourself is important. When you put yourself first in that way, you're not being selfish. You will have more to give to your work and your students if you take care of yourself first. Best wishes.

Thank you! And you are right . . .one day at a time. I will do my very best.