Hi all,

I think this lesson is the hardest for me out of the entire program.

No matter how hard I try I can't seem to stop the negativity. I understand that patience and practice are the key, but despite my persistence I'm not seeing any major changes in my thoughts.

I have a lot of trouble beating myself up about not being able to do something. It's strange with anxiety- instead of steady uphill progress, it seems to bounce all around. One day I can do something easily and a week later what was previously easy is now impossible to do. I don't get it. Why don't the accomplishments build on each other? Despite having a positive attitude, there seems to be nothing I can do to control this. It just seems to be the nature of anxiety- which makes it incredibly hard to feel like your progressing.

Any advice would be much appreciated. I feel like if I can master this, I would be at a turning point with my anxiety. I just can't get there despite working my butt off.

Hi Kelly. Relax and be persistant, and most of all be patient and gentle with yourself. Your on session 3 so it hasn't been that long at all. Also, just go step by step, and follow the outline of the course as it's written, and you will see changes. Sometimes we want to see progress right away, but for some if not most, this is a gradual process and everything will come together like Lucinda said. Change your negatives to positives when you catch the thoughts taking over. When you beat yourself up say to yourself or outloud, " Healing is a gradual process and I'm ok and I will beat this negativity." I think we sometimes have to feel worse before we finally heal and feel better. Just take things one step at a time. Go at your own pace, and do baby steps. Keep reading your index cards that go with the session you are on. You will beat this. Also, although you are determined and working your butt off, maybe don't work so hard at it. By all means do your sessions as stated, but do it with small steps in mind and as you get into the session things will fall into place in time.

Take care,
Hugs and Peace
PS- I'd be glad to help anytime you need help, just as everyone on here will help too.

I liked that picture and quote on your post GirlWisdom! Cool picture and good words to think about! I'm on week 3 to and I have been self talking for years, it can be done Kelly, the easiest is to just think to your self "it will go away". Having something else to take your mind off of the problem will help loads! I started playing the guitar.


Lite

Hi Ray o Lite,

I have been out of the program 4 years and I remember how hard it was for me to change my negative to positive dialogue. I was sooo negative that I didn't even think I was. Every time I thought negative I wrote it down and put that thought into a positive thought, that really helped me alot. After a while I could start to see a change in my thinking. And now after 4 years out of the program I am very positive sometimes I am very hard on people because I am so positive in my thinking. I have to watch myself and not be soo hard on people. You will get there, just keep practicing your lessons it will all come together.

To your success,

Dona Dry

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I have been out of the program 4 years and I remember how hard it was for me to change my negative to positive dialogue. I was sooo negative that I didn't even think I was. Every time I thought negative I wrote it down and put that thought into a positive thought, that really helped me alot. After a while I could start to see a change in my thinking. And now after 4 years out of the program I am very positive sometimes I am very hard on people because I am so positive in my thinking. I have to watch myself and not be soo hard on people. You will get there, just keep practicing your lessons it will all come together.

4 years...that’s great DonnaDry! I can't wait until I get that far! I have already go back to listen to one of the tapes one extra time (I've been doing 3X a week) and week 3 DVD as an extra bit of session time this week as well. I'm getting some stuff out of the program that I didn't know about this type of mind retardation I have put myself in, I do show some more interest’s at times but there are other times.... Well, I'll keep plugging away and look for more good results.


Lite

GirlWisdome that is great advice for Kelly and me too! Thanks

I know how you feel kelly. I am also having trouble with lesson 3. I never realized how much of a negative thinker I am. But now I am going to the extreme with the positive, and of course I don't believe it. I could really use some help with this lesson.

Thank you Ray of Lite, and Chief Crazy Horse for the compliment. I love pictures. Pictures have the power to move you . I'm glad you enjoy them, and the quotes too. I love making people smile. Well people, I'm still on session 2, but I'll be on 3 soon. I'm a snail . Lol. Just kidding.

Peace and Hugs