There's a new song out called Drive by Incubus (weird name, I know), and I just love it. The singer/writer says it's about his fears. I like how the words link it to driving, because for me personally, that's when I had my first panic attack, while driving. It's an awesome, mello song, and it's played a lot on alternative radio here in Chicago. They're going to play it live March 30 on the Tonight Show. I'm not plugging the band, never heard of them before this song.

Drive

Sometimes I feel the fear of uncertainty stinging clear
And I can't help but ask myself how much I'll let the fear take the wheel and steer
It's driven me before, it seems to have a vague, haunting mass appeal
Lately I'm beginning to find that I should be the one behind the wheel

Whatever tomorrow brings, I'll be there
With open arms and open eyes yeah
Whatever tomorrow brings, I'll be there, I'll be there

So if I decide to waiver my chance to be one of the hive
Will I choose water over wine and hold my own and drive,
It's driven me before, it seems to be the way
That everyone else gets around
Lately, I'm beginning to find that when I drive myself, my light is found

Whatever tomorrow brings, I'll be there
With open arms and open eyes yeah
Whatever tomorrow brings, I'll be there, I'll be there

Would you choose water over wine
Hold the wheel and drive
Whatever tomorrow brings, I'll be there
With open arms and open eyes yeah
Whatever tomorrow brings, I'll be there, I'll be there

JBean64

I just wanted to say Hi and tell you that I'm from Chicago too. Actually one of the west suburbs.

That is a great song!

Hey,

fear-my best subject. I look at life and mine has been driven by it. I never use to be afraid, or so I thought, but I think I just acted on stuff instead of letting the fear get to me. Now, I let the fear get to me. It seems so strange that at 42, I'm the most afraid I've ever been in my life. Why is that? Any of you older crowd identify with this? I've driven back and forth across this country, worked on a cruise ship, travelled, been married/divorced, bought a house, worked good paying jobs, and now I can't say boo to a goose. What's happening? I think maybe my anxiety has reared it's ugly head and said, "deal with me." Can anyone relate?

Jeanne

Jeanne,
I'm 28 but I can totally relate, I think of all the past things I've done, and some just recently like fly to Italy and now 5 months later I couldn't imagine doing it again. I think you're right that this time it's different and more intense because we're finally dealing with it, instead of sweeping it under the rug. I'm on week 3 and I'm doing better than I did in week 2 and a lot better than week 1, so I'm optimistic and looking forward to doing the things I did before and new things that I once avoided but this time with a better head on my shoulders...good luck Vince

Vince,

thanks for the support. I'm starting week 2 today. I keep telling myself that if I do what the program says and do the relaxation tape, which I do 3 times a day, things will improve. I'm really aware of the negative thinking I do. It's so amazing to me that I'm so detrimental to myself. I had no idea it was this bad. I get scared that I won't do it (notice I said won't not cant't). ANyway, away with that negatvie thought. Thanks for your support

Jeanne

Hello out there in ciber space,
This is my first time on so be patient with me please. I read Jeanie Beanie's comments and i can totally relate. I have taken the program and to tell you the truth it was a God send.It has helped me a great deal. However I still have a fear of flying. I what if think about having a panic attack on board and I can't get off the plane to distract myself. So far I have been able to do it anywhere else but because I can't exactly practice alot in a plane the fear is still there. Any suggestions? Has anyone done the program they offer through the Midwest center on the fear of flying? My husband loves to travel and I don't want to be left behind! Thanks
Been there done that

Dear Been there...

I would be happy to send you a copy of an article written by someone who worked the Attacking Anxiety program, on the topic of flying. It's quite encouraging.

There is a section in Lucinda's latest book, LIFE WITHOUT LIMITS (the book not the audio program)starting on page 140, that will be very helpful to you.

Write to me at the Center if you wish a copy of the article. Carolyn