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Hi Sol,
Your progress will come in stages. First, you realize you have a problem. Second, you commit yourself to over coming the problem. Third, you get to a point where you realize you just "did it again". Fourth, you get to where you start catching yourself in the middle of doing it again. Fifth, you start catching yourself just before your "do it again" and you stop yourself from doing it.
Take comfort in the fact that you will make progress. It won't happen over night. You will slip up, but you will make progress and you will eventually start thinking positively much more than you think negatively.
Remember to interrupt the negative thoughts with your breathing, and refocus on something positive!
You can do it!!!!
Steve
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i LOVE what steve wrote, and Trying hard. good stuff there sol. someone told me not long ago that this re-training old ways of negative thinking to positives, is kinda like learning anew language=i thought that a very good analogy. we all know if we do not use what we are learning,...like in practice practice practicing, its kind of a "use it or lose it"....but you also know it can be done, as many many others have done so with learning/practicing using a new language or skill. well, i tell myself that...because i know practicing something enough can make it more automatic...but, yes, i am thankful for times when others on here who have done the program and continue practicing its skills, ......=remind me. yes, it is sooooo easy to stop practicing, and so easily revery back to old ways of thinking that are so grooved into our brains...but it is also so probable that all our efforts trying to learn a new skill and all our practice-even in the past...can be "called up" to our minds with just a little re-practicing and re-training ourselves. in other words, be kind to all your hard efforts, and believe in all your efforts...and continue mastering your own self. Good wishes to one and all of us!
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| Posts: 306 | Location: denver, colorado | Registered: December 13, 2005 |  |
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quote: Originally posted by h.beth:
i LOVE what steve wrote, and Trying hard. good stuff there sol. someone told me not long ago that this re-training old ways of negative thinking to positives, is kinda like learning anew language=i thought that a very good analogy. we all know if we do not use what we are learning,...like in practice practice practicing, its kind of a "use it or lose it"....but you also know it can be done, as many many others have done so with learning/practicing using a new language or skill. well, i tell myself that...because i know practicing something enough can make it more automatic...but, yes, i am thankful for times when others on here who have done the program and continue practicing its skills, ......=remind me. yes, it is sooooo easy to stop practicing, and so easily revery back to old ways of thinking that are so grooved into our brains...but it is also so probable that all our efforts trying to learn a new skill and all our practice-even in the past...can be "called up" to our minds with just a little re-practicing and re-training ourselves. in other words, be kind to all your hard efforts, and believe in all your efforts...and continue mastering your own self. Good wishes to one and all of us!
Yeah I would tend to think it is like learning an instrument or something. You work real hard to learn it as a begginer, but once you know how to do it, you still need to do a little bit from time to time, to maintain the skills. |
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| Posts: 71 | Location: Boston | Registered: November 29, 2007 | |
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Hi, I'm in my second week of the program, I'm not only having a hard time with the positive self talk, but I find it difficult to maintain a journal as well. Does anyone out there have any tips in this area? It seems like when I start writing, I tend to want to write too much, and then feel that what I took the time to write down, sounds foolish. Is this typical?
I also seem to find it hard to relax, will the relaxation tape help in that area also, with constant listening? Thanks for listening, and looking forward to any positive advice you can give.
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| Posts: 63 | Location: Keyser, WV 26726 | Registered: December 19, 2007 | |
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I have found that writing down what I'm feeling and thinking is helping tremendously. Lucinda says there's magic in writing. It's true. Don't worry about what you write and don't reread it. Just write and close the book. I think the workbook for this session even says not to read what you've written(I'm also in session 2) and that you might even want to get rid of it later. But write what you're feeling and don't think it's a waste of time. It's worth it. quote: Originally posted by ROCKROCK:
Hi, I'm in my second week of the program, I'm not only having a hard time with the positive self talk, but I find it difficult to maintain a journal as well. Does anyone out there have any tips in this area? It seems like when I start writing, I tend to want to write too much, and then feel that what I took the time to write down, sounds foolish. Is this typical?
I also seem to find it hard to relax, will the relaxation tape help in that area also, with constant listening? Thanks for listening, and looking forward to any positive advice you can give.
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| Posts: 36 | Location: Barron, WI | Registered: December 19, 2007 | |
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I used to have MAJOR issues with wanting to talk to people all the time and NEEDING to share what I was feeling with someone, but not doing it because I didn't want to be seen as weak...so (and we all know how this scenario goes!  ) I'd build up all the anxiety and mostly depression inside instead. Writing, however, gives me that person to talk to about any and everything...ME! That advice to not re-read it was great! Don't do it now...maybe in years...or months or something. Now just use writing as a form of self-therapy and a forum to vent about those things that you don't feel comfortable sharing. Best, Dawn
"Yesterday's over my shoulder, so I can't look back for too long. There's just too much to see waiting in front of me and I know that I just can't go wrong..." - Jimmy Buffett
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| Posts: 394 | Location: NC | Registered: December 05, 2007 | |
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Sol, I remember having this very question. Yes, it gets a lot easier. A lot!
Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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| Posts: 662 | Location: NJ | Registered: June 24, 2006 | |
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Getting easy with positive thinking? Hmm It takes practice and do it over and over. Just like your learning how to riding bike for the first time. Yes you will fall few times same with your thoughts it will fall into negative but the more you keep on practice the easier it will be for you to get back to positive quickly just like riding a bike! Its hard for thoughts to stay only positive. Same with riding bike when your good on riding bike you will happen to fall once in a while. Same thing with thoughts.
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Thanks for the advice everyone, I'll get back to writing, if it's just a few lines, and I'll close the book when I'm done, just as you suggested JodyLynn, thanks. I haven't given up the fight, in beating this anxiety, I have learned to ask for help, thank all of you. Good luck on you journey as well
Rocky
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